Season 6 Episode

Gabe

Age: 20’s
Location: Portland, Oregon
Addicted to: Heroin, cocaine
What’s Memorable: Abandoned Indian street kid adopted by a white Christian-American couple who seem to think that saving a poor brown boy is doing right by God and that all their kids should live wholly by the Word. The dad is infuriating in his inability to connect with Gabe on any meaningful level due to his religious beliefs. Gabe seems like a genuinely good person in a family that just doesn’t understand him.

Official synopsis:  When he was three, Gabe’s mother abandoned him on the streets of Calcutta, but he was adopted by a young American couple. Gabe seemed happy in America, but he secretly felt like an outsider. In high school he started to rebel and resent his Christian upbringing. He began using marijuana and cocaine, and later graduated to heroin. Then he squandered all of the $37,500 he received after a car accident to support his drug habit. Now the family fears that without an intervention, Gabe’s addiction and depression will soon lead to his death.

Original Air Date: May 2009
Interventionist: Candy

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  1. Anna

    So how is Gabe doing? Was he successful in his choosing to give up the drugs?

    1. Intervention Directory

      They re-ran his episode the other night and it looks like he’s relapsed a few times but has been clean and sober since March 2009. Yay Gabe!

      1. Manish

        I saw the episode today.(in Holland) I’m from Indian heritage myself. I also had an Christian upbringing, which in comparison made sense to me, by the way. If i’m down i always ask my self what would have happened to me if i stayed in the motherland. I probably would not be alive.. Gabe had an impact on me. We all deserve a decent life….. I hope he’s doing well…
        Manish

  2. s hutch

    Gabe – I searched the web and came across this site. If you happen to read this, I can identify with how you feel in pics..I’m adopted as well. You have a good sense of peace within you as the show alluded to..stay strong and it was inspiring to see you continue to value your family through feeling different

  3. Alexa Morales

    I was wondering how gabe is doing. I seen the rerun episode of his and that I was wonderinghow he is doing I have been having a tough time to stay on track without slipping to my old ways if you can help in some way that would be nice thank you and for gabe you helped me through my time in need

  4. Amanda

    Alexa I’m not sure if I can help much. I have never used intravenously but I have had plenty of crushed powder up my nose. My boyfriend who I met when he got out of jail used most of his adult life. He promised me when we met he would never use again but I am sure you can guess how that turned out. He has been on methadone for the past 3 years but has still used on and off. As of right now he is doing well. We found out about 7 months ago he is HI positive. He has been for some time now. He had been tested in the past but it didn’t show. I am negative as of right now but will continue testing . What I wish they would address on the show is the biological affect of opiate use. The withdraw comes from the chemicals in your brain trying to over compensate for the lack of opiates the drug provides. Which our body natural produces when we take the drug we flood the brain will feel goods then when they aren’t there anymore the body doesn’t like it. Which will also make us feel more depressed so regardless of what the addiction was it IS now a sickness. You will know when you are ready you will need a detox drug and you will likely test that drug by using with it. Some people have a longer path than others. The biggest advice I can offer is get away from every person you call friend. Those you use with or buy drugs with. They are not your friends. Even when you get sober you can’t go back to associating with them. You also need to find the root of what triggers you to use. When we fix our mind we can fix our bodies. Good Luck I will pray for you to find a way to be strong enough to take that step.

  5. Jennifer

    Man I really liked this guy.. he’s a big hearted guy who’s emotionally lost & longing. (Not to mention seriously handsome!) I pray he’s happy, well, clean & sober. Neat individual. Take care Gabe

  6. Jacquie

    I think the gabe v story effected me more than any of the others. I check the Internet regularly for updates and never really find them. Gabes beautiful spirit shines through the ugliness of addiction and so does his intense inner turmoil. You just wish so bad you could figure it out and fix it for him. ( you if u ever read this gabe) I think to say the parents think bringing them into the family as one of their own is because they think it’s their ticket to heaven is extremely unfair. I am native American and poverty is real. To provide a child in desperate need with a home and true love is clearly in this case a choice of love. Does the dad have a problem connecting? Is he a little harsh? Yes but that’s not uncommon in dads. Communication is not a mans thing. I hope gabe gets intense therapy in addition to clinging to the faith he was raised with because it’s the only way to untie all the emotional knots tied up inside. Embrace yourself because no doubt your an awesome person, embrace healing and staying clean and it might help you to look into your birth culture with pride not pain. Find the beauty in it rather than the pain and uglyness of being left. You were chosen and they all obviously love you as if blood even through your lows so u are blood. I know this will be hard my prayers are with you.

    1. Stefan

      The dad was blinded by religious indoctrination, plain and simple. It prevented him from fully seeing what his son needed to get better, which is something we see all too often on this show. As far as communication not being a “man”s thing, I’m so glad that my generation is rectifying that. It’s been the cause of so many ills in our society.

      1. kelly

        I agree that the insipid judgemental aspect of christianity is the crux of his issues.
        There is a swedish method of intervention that doesn’t involve a higher power.
        HIs parents most important relationship being Christ says it all.
        Gab needs support in trusting his your intuition and he needs recognition that his thoughts regarding God are valid and not deny his intelligence.
        The irony is that, as he says.. his dad is floating on a religious cloud just as he’s trying to find his own cloud.
        Gab is worthy just because if he take Christ into his life.
        I know his dad and moms intentions are good because they are brainwashed themselves .
        I think he needs to be freed from the heavy expectation of him ‘living a christian life.

  7. Foff

    Wow, Dizzy. Can’t you just share Gabe’s story without throwing in your hatred? Who cares why his parents adopted him. It’s really not your business or concern, and it ended up better than what his life would have been like.

    1. Mallory

      Hey “Foff”… Pretty sure that’s why she includes the “official synopsis” section. The “what’s memorable” is where she shares her opinion.

    2. Stefan

      Um, the mom explicitly said that “God” told them to adopt a child from India, so it’s clear what their underlying motives were, at least at the beginning.

  8. Lynn

    I kinda had a cruah on Gabe. He has the potential to be so amazing once he gets sober. He is one of those contagious personalities that you hust want to be around. I hope he’s happy.

    1. Moriah

      He was super hot. He if he was that awesome while using just imagine who he could become while sober. I think about this episode and where he is now often. Wish him all the best.

  9. Pandora

    He really seemed to do whatever was in his power to make sure he ended as he should have, in his mind, in the first place; on the streets. Also, he did whatever he could to distance himself from his family; be the addict, be the one that nobody understands, be the one that doesn’t live as a Christian; visibly be different, as he felt different from them on the inside.

    I really hope he finally accepted that this family really loved him as one of their own, with their limits, such as in any family, and I hope he doesn’t feel so out of place now.

  10. Jordyne

    I thought this one was pretty sad, but it did leave me feeling hopeful for Gabe. His addiction was so severe, and you could see how it was just running him ragged. I feel for his alienation, but Candy did a fantastic job with the parents in this episode, trying to help them see that this didn’t have anything to do with religion at all, it’s psychology, it’s human emotion, and there’s more to life than following the word of God. You could tell the Dad just didn’t get it still, but it seemed hopeful for the rest of the family. They were obviously generous, good-hearted people, but really lacking in perspective. Gabe on the other hand, was a little frustrating to watch because he was so aware of the gifts and chances he’d been given, but couldn’t accept them as positives in his life. But he didn’t argue, he didn’t put up a fuss. He just went to treatment, and I sincerely hope he found his way. Seemed like a good guy, someone you’d just naturally want to be friends with.

  11. Fer

    I wonder how Gabe is doing now. I hope he is ok.

      1. Laura

        Dont see what’s so funny about this? What’s with the “lol” comment. Ypu must be pretty sadistic to gain pleasure from his suffering.
        On another note, it saddens me to see he was arrested recently, like a week ago. I really was holing he had made it out the other side of addiction

      2. Honey

        Wow how many arrests he’s had and how unhealthy he looks now.. so so sad…

  12. Ida Thompson

    He has been arrested about 15 times. How awful! About ten times arrested since this episode aired. Looks like he is now a meth addict. Very sad

    1. Luke

      I just say the episode on Oct 02 2020. When I saw the ending that hes been clean since 2009. It gave me hope but then I went to search for updates and fell on this page. I am sadden to read and see this. I cant believe hes been arrested that often. How does he bail out of jail everytime? If hes on heroin and goes to jail that often then he should be getting crazy withdraws everytime. I would not wish that on my worse enemy. I really wish the best for Gabe. At this point what can we do to help? He doesnt really wanna quit it seems. I am in the same boat its 50/50 love hate relationship daily.

  13. Gg

    Gabe was arrested again on February 5, 2020 with a $20,000 bond. He looked so good in treatment on his follow-up, I really thought he could make it.

  14. Another Asian Adoptee

    I saw this episode close to when it came out, when I was about 23. Rewatching this now, at 31, I can see a whole new layer of everything. I was also adopted from Asia into a white family in a primarily white community, and there aren’t words to describe the trauma that that causes. I get the sense from Gabe’s family that they are very loving, especially his sisters, but unfortunately, even the most loving people can’t understand what it is like to be a person of color in the U.S. and especially what it’s like to be a person of color adopted into a white family in a majority white community. And even me and other transnational/transracial adoptees can’t fully put it into words. So I understand the disconnection that Gabe feels from his family and his community. Those are wounds that leave deep scars.

    What I find really tragic about this episode is his father’s attitude. Even during the intervention, when Candy informs the family that Gabe is sick, the father comments that he isn’t convinced because there are all sorts of things that are called sickness but are really just sin. The fact that his father doesn’t understand the biological reality of addiction clearly has an effect on how he perceives Gabe’s behaviors, and it’s no wonder that Gabe has no interest in his father’s religious beliefs and feels so distant from his father. Honestly, I feel like if his father weren’t part of the picture, if it were just his mom and his siblings, it would be so much easier for Gabe to recover and begin healing. But the father’s attitude is a huge roadblock in that journey in my opinion.

    I can’t imagine what his life must have been like, especially with that father. I hope Gabe eventually finds the help and support he needs, and I hope he can eventually find some peace about his identity and where he fits into this world.

    1. Stefan

      Indeed the dad was a piece of shit. The mom did really seem to come around and understand the situation. My best friend and his sister were adopted from South Korea by white parents and it has definitely caused him some anguish. I’ve long wanted him to watch this episode because I believe he could really relate to Gabe.

  15. WB

    Looks like from at least starting at(that I saw) he’s been doing meth since 30-34 and it’s been some hard years! tons of arrests, lots of burglary charges besides Possession of meth. I’ve always thought, recovering from nearly every other concoction: meth seems to be the most criminally-producing (as in creates an uptick compared to any other drug per case of addiction with an even amount of users of both) Based on what I’ve seen, and studies.

    1. Cheyenne Pinney

      I really wanna talk to him im also from portland and though i wasnt adopted i can really relate to him. I just watched the episode about his addiction and such on intervention. I come from a religous family(jehovah witnesses) and know how his dad came off was really really sad because my family did to. Im also a addict I’ve been clean two years and i feel we could talk and learn from one another. Though i am a meth addict life gets to us and we struggle i hope he sees this and can get in touch. I also hope he is doing well still and soing amazing in his recovery

      1. kelly

        I should have proofread my comment .. sorry
        for grammatical errors in the above post.

        The dads intervention spiel was abysmal !!! Complete judgement, threats and guilt. The ultimate threat if he doesn’t bow to authority.

        It’s not going to work unless they release them from the weight of religious guilt

        Hey dad you dont listen.. at all.

        He wants control because he has zero in his religious family.

  16. Corcerned in Canada

    Can’t we find a way to help this guy? What he needs is psychotherapy. Nobody knows what happened to him in his formative years (0-3) it could have been horrific, and unless dealt with can destroy a life, as it has Gabes. The worst thing that could have happened to him was to be placed in this home oozing with white privelege. There was absolutely no effort to get to the root of the problem. Accept god and you will get better? WTAF? Poor kid. An rejecting him at 18 and throwing him out smh. Poor guy. You can tell he has a deeper understanding of life, but is never given the opportunity to discover it.

    1. Jessica

      You are right.

  17. sixxysix

    I’m not going to even touch on the dad and his wrongdoings, as they are obvious and frustrating. It’s his mom who really amazed me. She genuinely took to heart candy’s words. She was so, so so sweet to Gabe during the intervention. Her true love for him was palpable. I think ONE thing his dad said had merit, that Gabe had/has a permanent victim complex. Many with far less support and far more f*cked up stories recover. I know better than to compare trauma, but it’s frustrating seeing how he hurts his family. Really sucks seeing his recent and continued arrests. I’m sad for his mom and sisters especially.

  18. Maz

    Some people don’t want help. Not everyone can be cured, he’s on a downward spiral and destructive behaviour will cause his death. He is obviously suicidal and doing it the slow way. My brother was the same, we tried to support him, but he said he wanted to enjoy his death. He lost everything as his wife left him and took the kids, so he turned to drugs, it was a relief when he was gone, as much as it breaks my heart, he’s not suffering anymore, and neither is the family.

    Some people cannot be helped, his family must be going through hell.

  19. Darran

    That family drove that boy away and into drugs…. and all because of religion. Christopher Hitchens was right when he said “religion poisons everything”.
    That husband wife should hang their head in shame. Totally disgusting.

  20. Kim Williams

    Hey Gabe if you are reading all this shit that people write about you…..who the actual fuck are these people ??
    Go outside ….look up at the sky…and go to a meeting.

    That’s all I have to say. My name is Kim….Kimbo hugs ❤️

  21. Fabia

    You can all put the blame on his dad, his mother. Turns out he was the only addicted son in the family, so I don’t think his dad Christianity is the problem here. The boy got into this by himself blaming everyone that was there for him from the beggining and ignoring their suffering.He got the chance for the intervention and got clean for a fair time but then decided to go back to that again and never got out, he’s still on drugs and crimes. Now blaming his dad and moms beliefs is stupidity!

  22. Bee

    Wow, this episode made me so uncomfortable. His parents may have meant well when they adopted him but their whole attitude of “saving the poor abandoned kid from street life” denied him of being able to build a sense of pride in his own identity, not to mention divorced him from his cultural heritage. And the whole “we prayed for a little Indian boy and God gave him to us”, as if he was an item ordered off Amazon or something. Imagine growing up with such a heavy burden on your shoulders of having to feel grateful to the people who “saved” you. No wonder his self esteem was rock bottom. The whole episode was so disappointing, although some of his family genuinely seem like good people.

    1. L

      Spot on! I just watched his episode now. Seems like he needed counselling before using drugs

    2. Jessica

      You are right.

    3. Xlio

      I agree completely.

  23. Jessica

    I just saw the episode with Gabe and couldn’t believe my eyes. I come from Germany and found my ex boyfriend dead in 2010. he died of a febtanyl overdose. he was only 30 years old. the two are so similar. Exactly the same clothing style: t shirt over sweater, jeans in the same style with a belt and always a little too low, the same haircut and color, the same skin tone, the same sweet chubby cheeks and teddy bear belly ….. etc.I hope so much that he is clean and satisfied and that his wounds are healed. I don’t think Tommy would have made it anymore. I’m still in the substitution program and can’t quite get off the needle. for 16 years. … Tommy was my first real love! i still love him. I know we are immortal souls and will see each other again.

    1. Courtney

      Damn I live in Portland and know the area he was stealing in. He’s escalated so much, it’s so sad.

      1. Stefan

        Wow no kidding. Sadly I predict very soon he will end up in jail long-term or dead.