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Episode 42: Laney

Season 3, Episode 7


Age: 36
Location: Kansas
Addiction: Alcohol (rum)
What’s Memorable: This is the rich crazy lady who takes limos across the country so she can bring her cat and drink. Her story is much more than that though. Yes, Laney is a disaster; what’s upsetting is seeing how far she’s fallen and how little hope she has.

Official synopsis: Laney is an outgoing, intelligent 36-year-old woman who used to have the kind of life other people dream of: a handsome, loving husband, plenty of money and the opportunity to travel the world. Unfortunately, all the wealth and status in the world could not help Laney escape alcoholism. She lost her husband, her health and is quickly spending what’s left of her sizable divorce settlement on endless bottles of rum. Her organs are deteriorating fast and Laney is too weak to take care of herself. She is so dependent on attention from her frustrated family that Laney will attempt suicide in an effort to win back their love. But will her damaged body survive yet another trip to the ICU?

Original Air Date: June 2007
Interventionist: Candy

Categories: Abusive Relationship, Alcohol, Candy, Most Mentally Compromised Addicts, Most Unforgettable Episodes, Rape, Season 3


56 Responses to “Episode 42: Laney”

  1. i’m typing this July 17 2014. I haven’t found any updates about Laney since 2008. Is there any information about how she is doing? Is she alive (hopefully)?

    Posted by Robert Maybeth | July 17, 2014, 12:02 am
    • I too have been wondering how she is doing and have been doing research on wether or not she’s still sOber now. I haven’t found anything as of yet. I hope she’s okay. My heart ached for her. I really hope she’s okay.

      Posted by Leslie | July 30, 2015, 11:05 pm
  2. I remember this episode from the first showing and watched again today. I’m even more astonished this time.
    It is truly hard to show empathy for her. She put that family through hell and back, then back to hell. From what sensed, it all started when her baby sister came alone. She was a spoiled child that was taught the world owed her something and she continued to live her life that way. What a narcissist! Who says, “It is their fault, because they called me an alcoholic… now, I will show them what one really is.” She takes a whole bottle of pills, survives, only to accuse her family of forcing the pills on her? I hope she found some happiness and the help that she needed. Did anyone else want to yell at your TV watching this one?

    Posted by Sandra | December 31, 2014, 3:03 pm
    • Yes, I felt the same way. It was really hard to feel sympathy towards her. I really got irritated with her after a while. I don’t blame her family for being angry with her. There seemed to be more than just alcoholism at play, there were some serious personality issues on the table, imo. Anyway, hope she’s alright.

      Posted by Dee | February 26, 2015, 8:23 pm
    • Perhaps you missed so key moments that she discussed regarding her childhood. She was abandoned by her mother until she 7. Her mother finally married her 4th husband, who emotionally abused her-what kind of parents eat cupcakes in front of their kids without sharing. That’s just cruel.
      She was raped. And never recovered emotionally. What episode did you watch? You were unsympathetic because she was wealthy.

      Posted by Michelle | July 8, 2015, 8:57 pm
      • Laney is deserving of sympathy in regards to the fact that many of the experiences that molded her were beyond her control. She was raped, her mother was a shitty mother, etc. However, she was given an opportunity for a beautiful life, and as an adult capable of making all their own choices, she screwed it up. At a certain point, you have to accept responsibility for your actions.

        Posted by Amanda | July 9, 2015, 9:02 am
      • I agree with you

        Posted by marie-claire pinet | May 7, 2020, 9:12 pm
    • Sandra, I agree with Michelle and Amanda about this. The people I couldn’t sympathize with were (most of) her family. I don’t know about you, but for those neglected by their family (and her’s was pretty extreme) — and when you also consider the emotional abuse by the father-figures and her RAPE trauma — all this girl has wanted since childhood was to feel loved or even lovable. The only real mistake she made was not submitting to counseling or treatment to learn to cope with it, but she was (again) a child. Her family on the other hand, if you watch the scene after the intervention… all they did was criticize her. There was no recognition of her illness or condition. They saw ALL of what she did as a rational choice to abuse THEM. Her mother even said “SHE HAS PUT ME THOUGH SO MUCH THROUGH THE LAST 2 WEEKS” and I was like…. WTF??? You, your family, the men YOU married, the rape… has tormented her for her entire childhood. And you’re complaining??? They didn’t even speak to her after she left. What do you expect by growing up in an environment where you are treated like a hindrance to everyone? I was appalled and infuriated. She hasn’t grown up emotionally since she was probably 5 years old, and it wasn’t her fault. She needed help long before, but her family just expects her to choose to be better. She had an illness. And underneath it she had other emotional issues, and it was NOT right for her family to criticize her so much like they did. I am so glad and proud that she did get help, and I hope doing great today.

      Posted by Colby | November 3, 2016, 11:57 pm
      • Colby,
        Hi, this is Laney and I want to say thank you for what you said. I rarely speak to anyone about this for the sole purpose of once again being put on trial.
        Please remember I do not recall asking to have my dirty laundry aired on national teli by my family who clearly wanted the sympathy vote!
        Please feel free to contact me through [email protected] again anytime.
        Sorry this is late, but I’m being cautious of people and their lovely little opinions these last several years; can you blame me?

        Posted by Laney | December 24, 2016, 12:59 am
        • Have you ever looked into the possibility that you may have something called borderline personality disorder? I’ve written three books on the topic, and there are all kinds of treatment options available. You can go online anywhere and do some research. You have my best wishes.

          Posted by Randi Kreger | June 17, 2018, 8:59 pm
        • Dear Laney,
          I have made a few comments hear before but I want to say I’m so upset with how family can be my is no better trust and believe that even my flesh and blood kids turned against me and teamed up against me with my sister I’m trying so hard to keep my 13 old twins away from the cross fire but it’s imposiable my own sister wow so your not alone you have one little proublem in life trying to cope and wow your family keeps bringing it up and uses my issue against me to blame me on there own proublems some how it’s my fault I could understand if what I did effected them some how but how could it had when no one knew until someone read my diary and oh boy then the whole world knew so I’m sorry about your support and mine hope to hear from you god bless girl…
          Liana in Vancouver Washington

          Posted by Liana Graf | June 18, 2018, 9:23 pm
        • Hi Laney, I saw your old intervention episode today, and I wanted to know if you are doing okay? I can relate to being brought up in an abusive situation, as well as surviving sexual abuse and rape. I extend my hand in friendship to you, and I hope you are doing fantastic!

          Posted by Susan Jackson | August 21, 2018, 7:39 pm
        • Laney… Get in touch…

          Posted by K | June 30, 2020, 10:08 pm
    • Any idea when this was filmed? I think she said she hadn’t drank in 6 weeks? Sobriety is sobriety and I’m glad she found a “higher power” which is generally recommended in AA. I’m just worried she never actually completed treatment. Best wishes Laney.

      Posted by Ash | March 8, 2016, 12:54 am
  3. I just watched this episode and have to say that I was appalled at the way the family responded to Laney. In response to the comment above, I found myself yelling at the TV, but not at Laney, at her mother and sister.

    After seeing a bunch of episodes in an Intervention marathon, this particular family was noticeably cold and hard to the addict in their midst. More so than other families in the series, most of whom are torn apart by their competing feelings of love and frustration and anger and fear. These two, not so much. There really didn’t seem to be a lot of love there, particularly from the sister who was practically rolling her eyes even after her sister almost died. It was really clear to me why Laney kept upping the ante and getting more and more out of control. She was trying to force them to care about her. Geez, all she had was her cat.

    I really feel for Laney. I hope she’s doing better now.

    Posted by LeeAnn | February 1, 2015, 11:15 pm
    • We must have watched a different episode, because what I saw was a bunch of people who were terrified and tired. You have to consider the fact that her family has to be emotionally exhausted from dealing with her stuff. It is beyond exhausting, especially when the person won’t accept any responsibility for his or her actions and even goes as far as to say someone was drugging her, when moments before she was seen fumbling with pills. Someone can only do those things to you so many times before you just have to emotionally distance yourself from them. I truly hope that she is doing better and I do feel for her, but it’s not fair to put all that on her family when we don’t know anything about them.

      Posted by Samantha | March 22, 2015, 3:39 pm
    • Leeann,
      You really hit the head on nail when you noticed my so called loving sister not only roll her eyes, but also snicker at my possible demise. I need you to know that I never blamed my family for my alcoholism, that would be the fun filled world of editing via [email protected]!!!
      I seriously thought about writing a tell all book about the directing their producers pull to make things look extra dramatic. They literally like to toy with peoples lives for the ratings, I’m so glad I could oblige!!!

      Posted by Laney | December 24, 2016, 1:21 am
      • Laney, you should write that book. My heart broke for you, from the man your mother remarried, to your exhausting, yet secluded life inside that beautiful home. I hope you are doing well! Family doesn’t have to be blood, though I hope you found some semblance of peace within your own. Everyone deserves that!

        All the best!

        Kate from PA

        Posted by Kate L | February 8, 2017, 4:01 am
  4. I hope she’s doing well. Such a beautiful person who’s life spiraled. Would love to hear an update if anyone knows anything.

    Posted by Amanda | March 16, 2015, 11:35 am
  5. Just looking for an update on Laney. What a wonderful soul. I thought! I hope she is doing well

    Posted by Angela Boyd | March 22, 2015, 4:29 pm
  6. Unless you’ve lived the experience of deeply loving somone who is & has been a severe addict for numbers of years, there is NO relating. Especially parent & child, or close sibling. At the worst it’s cradle to grave with extended times, years spent in hell. I do not defend the addict behavior; it breaks many hearts many times over. In addition to the standard addict mentality; “nothing is my fault, my responsibility, poor me, kick me when I’m down, the world does me so much wrong”, etc, the brain is pickled, chemically damaged. You want to yell, of course you do! Any attempt at reasonable communication is the most frustrating experience ever. It is like banging your head on a brick wall. Saddest of all is the severe damage to innocent victims. Developing survival techniques that may even seem cold does NOT mean a lack of love or deep concern. Extreme damage & eventually one’s own survival is at risk. You can’t help anyone if you go down the tubes with them through enabling this eventually fatal disease. So judge not, seek to learn & understand as education is step no.1.

    Posted by Dianna Holliday | March 22, 2015, 5:09 pm
  7. I want to be your friend laney i saw the episode last night my heart droped for you i think all you need is a good friend like me so get in your limo and come see me im so lonely my husband left me for the same reason i have almost 3 years clean and have no friends i dont trust no one cuz there all so judgmental so good for them they all can use a cookie.
    Your friend Liana Grafyou can find me on facebook in vanvouver was

    Posted by Liana Graf | January 27, 2016, 2:30 pm
  8. I really hope she is doing well. Her story is sad from bother sides. I think the family realizes they are not perfect. Addiction is a very hard thing to understand and overcome. It takes time, forgiveness, love and strength.

    Posted by Lorie | August 10, 2016, 12:14 am
  9. LaNeyland,
    You have a friend in me up in Vancouver Washington I feel so strongly about my advice I’m about to give you I need a friend just as bad as you do so why don’t you get in your limo and come up to Vancouver Washington and come and meet some real friends and people who really care and love you and I just it just broke my heart seeing you on that show I just wanted to reach out and just give you the biggest hug ever and I mean what I say girl call me love you 360 518 8825 Liana

    Posted by Liana Graf | December 31, 2016, 11:11 pm
  10. Laney,
    You have a friend in me up in Vancouver Washington I feel so strongly about my advice I’m about to give you I need a friend just as bad as you do so why don’t you get in your limo and come up to Vancouver Washington and come and meet some real friends and people who really care and love you and I just it just broke my heart seeing you on that show I just wanted to reach out and just give you the biggest hug ever and I mean what I say girl call me love you 360 518 8825 Liana

    Posted by Liana Graf | December 31, 2016, 11:12 pm
  11. Laney,
    I just finished watching your episode, and I wanted so badly to reach through the screen and give you a hug. I am only a few years younger than you are, and can relate so much to what you went through all those years ago. You experienced so much drama while growing up, and that had everything to do with shaping the adult you grew into. You did put your family through a lot, but I was also sad to see them making it about themselves a little bit… it was a long road they got you to where you were, and they were all a part of the journey. I will hope and pray for you that you found sobriety and peace. For me it’s been close to four years, one day at a time. I don’t know if you are still living in FL, but I live in South Florida, and you have a friend in me if ever you need it. ????

    Posted by Louise | January 2, 2017, 7:06 pm
  12. This story shows how this disease has no preference. Rich, poor, black, white…Laney admitted to being rich and money can’t buy you happiness. I hope she was able to stop drinking
    This disease is always waiting for us.

    Posted by Natasha | August 12, 2017, 7:09 pm
  13. People also have no idea what it’s like to be an addict or alcoholic, unless they’re actually been one

    Posted by Tobie | August 15, 2017, 7:53 am
  14. Laney,
    I hope you are doing fantastic. Your episode hit home with me. You seem to be such a kind, intelligent and gentle soul. You deserve to be happy and free of your disease. Hoping for the best for you in Portland Oregon

    Posted by Elan | August 22, 2017, 5:51 pm
  15. Hi Laney. You episode resonated strongly with me. I don’t have a substance abuse problem but I can relate to the depression and feeling devoid of hope. Just getting through each day. Everyone on my father’s side of the family is depressive or bipolar, so I didn’t really have a chance statistically. I wish the best for you. No advice is ever really useful but what I’ve discovered is that there’s always hope, you just can’t see it when you’re in that dark place. But it exists nonetheless. Regards, Liesl

    Posted by Liesl | August 24, 2017, 3:04 am
  16. Thank you so much for very kind words, I tend to get a lot of hate. I just celebrated my 47th birthday and I’m trying to maintain. People like you give me hope that there is compassion in the world.

    Posted by Lelania | August 27, 2017, 2:55 pm
  17. Not sure if this is actually you. I’m sorry you get so much hate. You’ve been through a lot and I hope you’re doing well, I’m watching your episode now. I hope you had a great birthday!

    Posted by Anon | August 29, 2017, 7:26 pm
  18. Laney, you are beautiful, strong and smart. I only wish you the best. Stay strong! ✌

    Posted by Sad | September 11, 2017, 9:55 pm
  19. Dear Laney,
    I’m sorry if this offends you but your mother has crocodile tears this entire episode.
    No one in your family has any emotional connection to you.
    I believe the center of your addiction is being raised by narcissistic parents.
    I’m sorry you weren’t given the love you should have had as a child. You should’ve been treated like a precious being not a pawn.

    I think you’ll like The Four Agreements.

    I wish you nothing but the best.
    You can tell us how you are if you’d like, if not – I understand.

    Posted by Laura | February 16, 2018, 8:54 am
  20. Laney –

    I am a teacher and use your story to discuss family dynamics, relationships and addiction. My students are wondering how you are doing and they would like you to know they really like your cat. 🙂

    Hope there is a recent update on how you are doing.

    Posted by Amy | March 28, 2018, 6:07 am
  21. Beautiful Laney-
    Your episode deeply affected me, as a fellow sexual assault survivor. I hope you can see from the people here that you are deeply admired and loved. Your heart shines. Never stop giving. I would be proud to know you as I’m sure all of your friends are. THANK YOU for your strength. You have most likely saved lives of people who watched your episode.

    Posted by Laura Tanner | August 11, 2018, 10:32 am
  22. Dear Laney,
    I was very moved by your story when I watched it on TV today. I was totally shocked by your family’s reaction to your situation. Your mother knows your history, your upbringing (or lack of) and so does your sister. Yes, it is difficult NOW for them because you have a serious problem on your hands, BUT they don’t seem to recognize the difficult time you have had throughout your entire life. I believe if you had proper counselling when you were younger, you may have been able to avoid the medical crisis you were in then. Who could have really helped you then,,,your Mother! I hope I am reading your responses correctly and that you are in a much better place then when this
    episode aired in 2007.

    Posted by Kathy Bergquist | August 21, 2018, 1:56 pm
  23. Laney,
    Please give me an update on how you are doing today! I watched this episode back in 07 and have from time to time wondered what ever happened to you..

    Posted by Amanda Thompson | August 21, 2018, 9:01 pm
  24. Just watched this episode and identified hard. I’m sitting here with a bottle of wine in hand, and a sleeping cat in my lap who looks a whole lot like a younger version of Puddy (mine goes by Cat Stevens), with more disposable income than I deserve. I loved it when Laney talked about how her husband called her an alcoholic and she was basically like “Oh yeah? Well, I’ll show you!”. I’m there, girl, and it’s a hard place to be. You’re right – it gets ugly and you really only end up hurting yourself. I thought that was a really insightful part of the episode.

    Throughout the episode, I couldn’t help but laugh. I love the sarcasm. Underneath the sadder rants, I saw glimpses of a pretty awesome person – a firecracker with a lot to offer the world. I appreciated the shit out of your episode, Laney. I saw the update w/the Christian counseling limo ride, and I hope it worked out for you. Sometimes God reaches us in mysterious ways. Good luck in this world. 🙂

    Posted by Annie | September 9, 2018, 3:41 pm
  25. Laney,
    I hope you see this. My heart aches for you. I’m also a recovering alcoholic who was sexually assaulted multiple times. I tried for years to cover those scars with liquor, burying myself, ending up in the hospital multiple times. People can call you a whiny baby all they want for being so attached to your cat and such, but I could tell you believed that was the only one who loved you. I hope you have people in your life now who show you the love and understanding your family couldn’t. I can tell you’re a funny, beautiful, charming, intelligent person who just got the short end of the stick and you deserve better. I wish you nothing but love and happiness and I hope you stay sober, you deserve a happy sober life.

    Posted by Melanie | October 7, 2018, 6:25 pm
  26. I’m watching this in 2019 and I’m commenting because of all the ignorant comments by people who don’t understand the effect her childhood had on her. I grew up with 2 alcoholic abusive parents who didn’t show me love and it has had a permanent effect on me. Although I am doing well, married with a good family etc. the abuse I suffered as a child has had a permanent effect on me. Laney’s mother is largely to blame for Laney’s emotional and mental problems. This is the truth and if you don’t like it then too bad. It doesn’t mean Laney can’t be happy, she can have peace and joy in her life but the effects of her childhood will always be there to a degree. There have been studies that have shown that abuse in childhood has a permanent physical effect on the brain! This shows up in scans. So I ended up an alcoholic but I’ve been sober for many years and have a good woman who loves me and a beautiful daughter who is well loved and cared for etc. so I am really happy that I was able to recover and be a productive member of society even with the deck stacked against me, so I know it is possible for everyone!

    Posted by Shawn | April 14, 2019, 6:09 am
  27. People have to learn to process their feelings and do the work to learn how to deal with life without self medicating. I was abandoned, raped and used alcohol to deal with my fear, sadness and avoidance of looking at myself as the one that was the problem because I didn’t want to go through the hurtful process of healing. I used everything I could as an excuse to keep drinking. I allowed the people who hurt me to keep hurting me by poisening my body and my relationships. Well, I finally got help learning how to process in a healthy way and couldn’t be happier. Anyone reading this trying to blame everything in your life so you can keep on drinking or taking the drugs, just do the hard thing and get help to get sober so you can finally feel better and have healthy relationships because you just simply can’t when you are crazy out of your mind unable to make rational decisions that are best for yourself. Not everyone can unconditionally love and that is okay. We can make new relationships with new people if the ones we hurt cannot forgive and get past what we did in our dysfunction. Whether it is their selfishness or their inability to forgive, that is their choice, and we need to respect it. We also have the choice to move past it and live a life of peace and happiness without them. I pray Laney woke up and started to realize her part in all of it and was able to apologize for her actions when she sobered up and realized no matter what anyone does in our lives to hurt us, we have the choice to let them keep hurting us or to forgive them. We have the choice to go on about our lives not letting them continue to make us suffer one more day due to their behavior or decisions in the past. We have a choice to live. I chose to live.

    Posted by Mello | May 21, 2019, 8:32 pm
  28. Hi Laney, I hope you are doing okay and have people (and cats!) surrounding you that love YOU for being YOU. I related to your pain of wanting to feel loved and cared for by your family. It completely sucks to feel unloved, invalidated, and invisible. I hope you see your strength that I saw you have in this episode. I saw that you are insightful, tough yet vulnerable, humorous, and beautiful inside and out. I hope you have started to believe in yourself and feel that you are not alone. I hope both and Angela are hanging in there.

    Posted by Lisa | September 21, 2019, 9:24 pm
  29. ‘I can buy homes, I can buy cars, I can buy people’

    Posted by jarvis | October 9, 2019, 9:12 pm
  30. Anyone else puzzled by the fact that they didnt do the intervention when she was still in the hospital??? She had detoxed from alcohol but instead they let her go back to drinking after that?

    Posted by Annie | November 20, 2019, 11:47 pm
  31. hope you’re well

    Posted by Venus | November 25, 2019, 12:22 pm
  32. Ok it is 2020 January and I am sitting here and they are showing a episode on her and I need to know where is she and is she still alive I want to sit down with her and talk for real let’s get real my life was not good and yep alcohol kills the pain till it wears off please let me know what happened to her

    Posted by Sammie | January 29, 2020, 11:26 pm
  33. I honestly felt empathy for Laney. She had PTSD from her rape and her mom was like just saying she wanted her to “shut up and just get over it”. If she knew what being violated in that manner feels like she would never say that to Laney. Her mother never protected her I know a couple other people in my life who’s parents were the same way, let their significant others treat their kids any way and they grew up resentful of their parents. Also now being a parent I can’t imagine someone treating my child that way and wanting to stay with them that’s just… appalling to me. And of course Laney was so attached to her cat it was the only thing she had that gave her comfort. I also can relate to how laneys relationship with her husband fell apart because she never dealt with the trauma. I saw an update video on her not sure when it’s dated honestly doesn’t say but she looked better! I hope you have found some peace and healing Laney.

    Posted by Luna | February 1, 2020, 2:29 pm
  34. Wondering how Laney’s life turned out~ wishing all involved the best😊

    Posted by Lesa | April 3, 2020, 7:21 am
  35. I feel so much sympathy for all she’s been through but I hate to say i could not stand her. There were glimmers of humanity there but she just manipulated every situation. She totally took control of the intervention, think Candy learned her lesson from that as well as entire intervention team. I know that very well could be the alcohol. However, even in her comments above she comes off very snooty and still paranoid that everyone is out to get her. Why would you agree to be on television and then later say you didn’t ask for your dirty laundry to be aired? Again, perhaps it is not my place to say such things. She very well could be a lovely person.

    Also, I’ve noticed the first few seasons they seem to be ok with people using or drinking on their way to treatment. Now they put up a fight if they want to use one last time unless it’s really to the wire and the interventionists only choice.

    Posted by Xlio | September 19, 2020, 11:12 am

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