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Episode 42: Laney

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Laney
Age: 36
Location: Kansas
Addiction: Alcohol (rum)
What’s Memorable: This is the rich crazy lady who takes limos across the country so she can bring her cat and drink. Her story is much more than that though. Yes, Laney is a disaster; what’s upsetting is seeing how far she’s fallen and how little hope she has.

Official synopsis: Laney is an outgoing, intelligent 36-year-old woman who used to have the kind of life other people dream of: a handsome, loving husband, plenty of money and the opportunity to travel the world. Unfortunately, all the wealth and status in the world could not help Laney escape alcoholism. She lost her husband, her health and is quickly spending what’s left of her sizable divorce settlement on endless bottles of rum. Her organs are deteriorating fast and Laney is too weak to take care of herself. She is so dependent on attention from her frustrated family that Laney will attempt suicide in an effort to win back their love. But will her damaged body survive yet another trip to the ICU?

Original Air Date: June 2007

Categories: Abusive Relationship, Alcohol, Most Mentally Compromised Addicts, Most Unforgettable Episodes, Rape, Season 3

Discussion

32 Responses to “Episode 42: Laney”

  1. i’m typing this July 17 2014. I haven’t found any updates about Laney since 2008. Is there any information about how she is doing? Is she alive (hopefully)?

    Posted by Robert Maybeth | July 17, 2014, 12:02 am
    • I too have been wondering how she is doing and have been doing research on wether or not she’s still sOber now. I haven’t found anything as of yet. I hope she’s okay. My heart ached for her. I really hope she’s okay.

      Posted by Leslie | July 30, 2015, 11:05 pm
  2. I remember this episode from the first showing and watched again today. I’m even more astonished this time.
    It is truly hard to show empathy for her. She put that family through hell and back, then back to hell. From what sensed, it all started when her baby sister came alone. She was a spoiled child that was taught the world owed her something and she continued to live her life that way. What a narcissist! Who says, “It is their fault, because they called me an alcoholic… now, I will show them what one really is.” She takes a whole bottle of pills, survives, only to accuse her family of forcing the pills on her? I hope she found some happiness and the help that she needed. Did anyone else want to yell at your TV watching this one?

    Posted by Sandra | December 31, 2014, 3:03 pm
    • Yes, I felt the same way. It was really hard to feel sympathy towards her. I really got irritated with her after a while. I don’t blame her family for being angry with her. There seemed to be more than just alcoholism at play, there were some serious personality issues on the table, imo. Anyway, hope she’s alright.

      Posted by Dee | February 26, 2015, 8:23 pm
    • Perhaps you missed so key moments that she discussed regarding her childhood. She was abandoned by her mother until she 7. Her mother finally married her 4th husband, who emotionally abused her-what kind of parents eat cupcakes in front of their kids without sharing. That’s just cruel.
      She was raped. And never recovered emotionally. What episode did you watch? You were unsympathetic because she was wealthy.

      Posted by Michelle | July 8, 2015, 8:57 pm
      • Laney is deserving of sympathy in regards to the fact that many of the experiences that molded her were beyond her control. She was raped, her mother was a shitty mother, etc. However, she was given an opportunity for a beautiful life, and as an adult capable of making all their own choices, she screwed it up. At a certain point, you have to accept responsibility for your actions.

        Posted by Amanda | July 9, 2015, 9:02 am
    • Sandra, I agree with Michelle and Amanda about this. The people I couldn’t sympathize with were (most of) her family. I don’t know about you, but for those neglected by their family (and her’s was pretty extreme) — and when you also consider the emotional abuse by the father-figures and her RAPE trauma — all this girl has wanted since childhood was to feel loved or even lovable. The only real mistake she made was not submitting to counseling or treatment to learn to cope with it, but she was (again) a child. Her family on the other hand, if you watch the scene after the intervention… all they did was criticize her. There was no recognition of her illness or condition. They saw ALL of what she did as a rational choice to abuse THEM. Her mother even said “SHE HAS PUT ME THOUGH SO MUCH THROUGH THE LAST 2 WEEKS” and I was like…. WTF??? You, your family, the men YOU married, the rape… has tormented her for her entire childhood. And you’re complaining??? They didn’t even speak to her after she left. What do you expect by growing up in an environment where you are treated like a hindrance to everyone? I was appalled and infuriated. She hasn’t grown up emotionally since she was probably 5 years old, and it wasn’t her fault. She needed help long before, but her family just expects her to choose to be better. She had an illness. And underneath it she had other emotional issues, and it was NOT right for her family to criticize her so much like they did. I am so glad and proud that she did get help, and I hope doing great today.

      Posted by Colby | November 3, 2016, 11:57 pm
      • Colby,
        Hi, this is Laney and I want to say thank you for what you said. I rarely speak to anyone about this for the sole purpose of once again being put on trial.
        Please remember I do not recall asking to have my dirty laundry aired on national teli by my family who clearly wanted the sympathy vote!
        Please feel free to contact me through a@e again anytime.
        Sorry this is late, but I’m being cautious of people and their lovely little opinions these last several years; can you blame me?

        Posted by Laney | December 24, 2016, 12:59 am
    • Any idea when this was filmed? I think she said she hadn’t drank in 6 weeks? Sobriety is sobriety and I’m glad she found a “higher power” which is generally recommended in AA. I’m just worried she never actually completed treatment. Best wishes Laney.

      Posted by Ash | March 8, 2016, 12:54 am
  3. I just watched this episode and have to say that I was appalled at the way the family responded to Laney. In response to the comment above, I found myself yelling at the TV, but not at Laney, at her mother and sister.

    After seeing a bunch of episodes in an Intervention marathon, this particular family was noticeably cold and hard to the addict in their midst. More so than other families in the series, most of whom are torn apart by their competing feelings of love and frustration and anger and fear. These two, not so much. There really didn’t seem to be a lot of love there, particularly from the sister who was practically rolling her eyes even after her sister almost died. It was really clear to me why Laney kept upping the ante and getting more and more out of control. She was trying to force them to care about her. Geez, all she had was her cat.

    I really feel for Laney. I hope she’s doing better now.

    Posted by LeeAnn | February 1, 2015, 11:15 pm
    • We must have watched a different episode, because what I saw was a bunch of people who were terrified and tired. You have to consider the fact that her family has to be emotionally exhausted from dealing with her stuff. It is beyond exhausting, especially when the person won’t accept any responsibility for his or her actions and even goes as far as to say someone was drugging her, when moments before she was seen fumbling with pills. Someone can only do those things to you so many times before you just have to emotionally distance yourself from them. I truly hope that she is doing better and I do feel for her, but it’s not fair to put all that on her family when we don’t know anything about them.

      Posted by Samantha | March 22, 2015, 3:39 pm
    • Leeann,
      You really hit the head on nail when you noticed my so called loving sister not only roll her eyes, but also snicker at my possible demise. I need you to know that I never blamed my family for my alcoholism, that would be the fun filled world of editing via A@E!!!
      I seriously thought about writing a tell all book about the directing their producers pull to make things look extra dramatic. They literally like to toy with peoples lives for the ratings, I’m so glad I could oblige!!!

      Posted by Laney | December 24, 2016, 1:21 am
      • Laney, you should write that book. My heart broke for you, from the man your mother remarried, to your exhausting, yet secluded life inside that beautiful home. I hope you are doing well! Family doesn’t have to be blood, though I hope you found some semblance of peace within your own. Everyone deserves that!

        All the best!

        Kate from PA

        Posted by Kate L | February 8, 2017, 4:01 am
  4. I hope she’s doing well. Such a beautiful person who’s life spiraled. Would love to hear an update if anyone knows anything.

    Posted by Amanda | March 16, 2015, 11:35 am
  5. Just looking for an update on Laney. What a wonderful soul. I thought! I hope she is doing well

    Posted by Angela Boyd | March 22, 2015, 4:29 pm
  6. Unless you’ve lived the experience of deeply loving somone who is & has been a severe addict for numbers of years, there is NO relating. Especially parent & child, or close sibling. At the worst it’s cradle to grave with extended times, years spent in hell. I do not defend the addict behavior; it breaks many hearts many times over. In addition to the standard addict mentality; “nothing is my fault, my responsibility, poor me, kick me when I’m down, the world does me so much wrong”, etc, the brain is pickled, chemically damaged. You want to yell, of course you do! Any attempt at reasonable communication is the most frustrating experience ever. It is like banging your head on a brick wall. Saddest of all is the severe damage to innocent victims. Developing survival techniques that may even seem cold does NOT mean a lack of love or deep concern. Extreme damage & eventually one’s own survival is at risk. You can’t help anyone if you go down the tubes with them through enabling this eventually fatal disease. So judge not, seek to learn & understand as education is step no.1.

    Posted by Dianna Holliday | March 22, 2015, 5:09 pm
  7. I want to be your friend laney i saw the episode last night my heart droped for you i think all you need is a good friend like me so get in your limo and come see me im so lonely my husband left me for the same reason i have almost 3 years clean and have no friends i dont trust no one cuz there all so judgmental so good for them they all can use a cookie.
    Your friend Liana Grafyou can find me on facebook in vanvouver was

    Posted by Liana Graf | January 27, 2016, 2:30 pm
  8. I really hope she is doing well. Her story is sad from bother sides. I think the family realizes they are not perfect. Addiction is a very hard thing to understand and overcome. It takes time, forgiveness, love and strength.

    Posted by Lorie | August 10, 2016, 12:14 am
  9. LaNeyland,
    You have a friend in me up in Vancouver Washington I feel so strongly about my advice I’m about to give you I need a friend just as bad as you do so why don’t you get in your limo and come up to Vancouver Washington and come and meet some real friends and people who really care and love you and I just it just broke my heart seeing you on that show I just wanted to reach out and just give you the biggest hug ever and I mean what I say girl call me love you 360 518 8825 Liana

    Posted by Liana Graf | December 31, 2016, 11:11 pm
  10. Laney,
    You have a friend in me up in Vancouver Washington I feel so strongly about my advice I’m about to give you I need a friend just as bad as you do so why don’t you get in your limo and come up to Vancouver Washington and come and meet some real friends and people who really care and love you and I just it just broke my heart seeing you on that show I just wanted to reach out and just give you the biggest hug ever and I mean what I say girl call me love you 360 518 8825 Liana

    Posted by Liana Graf | December 31, 2016, 11:12 pm
  11. Laney,
    I just finished watching your episode, and I wanted so badly to reach through the screen and give you a hug. I am only a few years younger than you are, and can relate so much to what you went through all those years ago. You experienced so much drama while growing up, and that had everything to do with shaping the adult you grew into. You did put your family through a lot, but I was also sad to see them making it about themselves a little bit… it was a long road they got you to where you were, and they were all a part of the journey. I will hope and pray for you that you found sobriety and peace. For me it’s been close to four years, one day at a time. I don’t know if you are still living in FL, but I live in South Florida, and you have a friend in me if ever you need it. 😊

    Posted by Louise | January 2, 2017, 7:06 pm
  12. This story shows how this disease has no preference. Rich, poor, black, white…Laney admitted to being rich and money can’t buy you happiness. I hope she was able to stop drinking
    This disease is always waiting for us.

    Posted by Natasha | August 12, 2017, 7:09 pm
  13. People also have no idea what it’s like to be an addict or alcoholic, unless they’re actually been one

    Posted by Tobie | August 15, 2017, 7:53 am
  14. Laney,
    I hope you are doing fantastic. Your episode hit home with me. You seem to be such a kind, intelligent and gentle soul. You deserve to be happy and free of your disease. Hoping for the best for you in Portland Oregon

    Posted by Elan | August 22, 2017, 5:51 pm
  15. Hi Laney. You episode resonated strongly with me. I don’t have a substance abuse problem but I can relate to the depression and feeling devoid of hope. Just getting through each day. Everyone on my father’s side of the family is depressive or bipolar, so I didn’t really have a chance statistically. I wish the best for you. No advice is ever really useful but what I’ve discovered is that there’s always hope, you just can’t see it when you’re in that dark place. But it exists nonetheless. Regards, Liesl

    Posted by Liesl | August 24, 2017, 3:04 am
  16. Thank you so much for very kind words, I tend to get a lot of hate. I just celebrated my 47th birthday and I’m trying to maintain. People like you give me hope that there is compassion in the world.
    Laney

    Posted by Lelania | August 27, 2017, 2:55 pm
  17. Not sure if this is actually you. I’m sorry you get so much hate. You’ve been through a lot and I hope you’re doing well, I’m watching your episode now. I hope you had a great birthday!

    Posted by Anon | August 29, 2017, 7:26 pm
  18. Laney, you are beautiful, strong and smart. I only wish you the best. Stay strong! ✌

    Posted by Sad | September 11, 2017, 9:55 pm

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