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Episode 30: Betsy

Season 2, Episode 17

Age: 40
Location: Annapolis, Maryland
Addiction: Alcohol
What’s Memorable: This episode can’t be found anywhere, and most references to the episode have been removed. Odd. Anyway, I watched it years ago and couldn’t find it to re-watch for this directory, so I’ll just say what I do remember. The wine, the denial, the childish weakness, the shitty supposedly sober boyfriend that convinced her not to get help at the last minute. Well the episode has been uncovered and posted on YouTube by Ramoin so I got a chance to watch it again and oof! What an episode. My original ‘what’s memorable’ wasn’t all the far off from what I would say now so I will only add that her aversion to being alone was at such odds with her compulsion to push everyone away, it’s striking. Also the fact that Andrew was even asked to be in the Intervention seems ill-advised, but that he was allowed to accompany her on the plane to treatment was straight up wrong. I don’t recall anyone else on this show being able to bring someone on the trip with them do you? Love you Jeff, but that was a seriously bad call. She was being a petulant child making unreasonable demands and I think he should have called her on it, not given in.

Update: Betsy ‘Bets’ Bender passed away on August 8, 2018 after a battle with breast cancer. Obituary

Official synopsis: Betsy went through a devastating time when her marriage fell apart. She began drinking heavily to help the pain. Her family is trying to help her with no results. They finally give her an ultimatum. She either quits drinking or she will lose all of their support and she would be on her own.

Interventionist: Jeff
Original Air Date: August 2006

Categories: Addicts Who Have Died, Alcohol, Jeff, Most In-Denial Addicts, Most Unforgettable Episodes, Season 2


60 Responses to “Episode 30: Betsy”

  1. I have been searching for years for an update on Betsy. Her episode has been missing for a very long time. The only update I’ve ever seen is this addition to Wikipedia: Betsy reluctantly agreed to go to treatment along with her boyfriend. However, once they got to the airport, they decided to return home to try and get sober on their own. Betsy tried to contact her family on several occasions, but they refused to talk to her. In June 2006, Betsy entered a treatment facility.

    Posted by Natalie | March 28, 2015, 11:50 pm
  2. The location is Annapolis, Maryland.

    Posted by Zack | May 13, 2015, 10:49 am
  3. I too have been looking for this episode. I lived next door to her then boyfriend when this episode was shot. My wife called me one day and said that there was a camera crew outside and I didn’t think much of it. When I was watching the show I saw my car then my house and things started to come together. He was a very odd person, Setting off fireworks late at night with his young son and then running into the house and hiding like a child. I have seen him a few times in Annapolis but not Betsy. So as far as I know he still lives around Annapolis.

    Posted by Matt | December 23, 2015, 10:11 am
  4. This episode is now streaming on a&e’s website

    Posted by Carson | January 1, 2016, 11:52 am
  5. Besty has to be one of the most in denial addicts I’ve ever seen on this show. I hope she was able to turn it all around.

    Posted by t.toro | January 1, 2016, 8:53 pm
  6. Where can I find this episode?

    Posted by Frank | September 16, 2016, 5:50 pm
  7. Just curious, how did you find a picture for her if you can’t find the episode?

    Posted by Frank | October 31, 2016, 2:57 pm
  8. She looks like Joni Mitchell.

    This is the only Intervention episode I’ve never seen. It doesn’t seem to be available on A&E’s website, YouTube, Hulu or anywhere else. I’m curious to know why A&E seems to have purged it from their archives.

    Posted by Janelle | October 31, 2016, 3:04 pm
    • Believe it or not, I found footage from the episode. Now I don’t know if this I can trust this website.


      It shows the first 30 seconds. Apparently you have to sign in too see the whole thing. I don’t know if this is something that costs money. You can try if you want you. I can’t. I’ve never heard of this website before.

      With this being said, the only other episode I can’t find in Michael M. and Randi. Strangely enough, I’m pretty this is the same Michael that appeared in the Season 2 “Adam and Michael”.

      Posted by Frank | October 31, 2016, 8:29 pm
      • It’s speculated that Randi requested that her episode not air due to her finding out about the Intervention. The Michael from season 2 appears to be the same person indeed.

        If anyone can find Betsy’s episode I would LOVE to watch it.

        Posted by Stefan | May 7, 2018, 1:19 pm
  9. It was on the a&e site about 6 months ago. I watched it along with the Mike and Jenny episode. They didnt have the Michael and Randi on there tho. only had betsy, Jenni & mike on there for a short while before taking it off. IT was a good episode. I would keep checking on there because they may put it back on. Don’t know what the deal is with these few episodes as to why they can’t be found.

    Posted by Kristy | November 1, 2016, 1:16 pm
  10. Jeff was the interventionist for Betsys episode. I remember her boyfriend trying to talk her into not going at the airport at the end of the episode. I can’t remember if she didnt go or if she went and left immediately. I just remember no success. It was a good episode tho.

    Posted by Kristy | November 3, 2016, 7:27 am
  11. I want to see this

    Posted by Natasha Carriles | September 24, 2017, 3:58 pm
  12. I remember this episode because it was clear she had textbook Borderline Personality Disorder. She agreed to go as long as her boyfriend could go too then they got off the plane during a layover in Chicago (seriously producers? Book a non stop!) and decided not to go. She was extremely unpleasant but interesting to watch because of her PBD, everything was poor Betsy, constantly the victim. I would guess it’s not on any of the websites because she sued and somehow won. It’s too bad, I’d say it’s one of the 5 episodes that stand out to me the most.

    Posted by kittynyc | January 28, 2018, 1:01 pm
  13. Here is her Facebook page https://www.facebook.com/betsy.bender.1

    I figured one of her parents had passed away and googled all their names. Her mom did http://kochfuneralhome.com/tribute-ajax/print-obituary.html?id=1432

    Posted by kittynyc | January 28, 2018, 1:27 pm
  14. I’ve searched and searched the web for this episode for so long, without any luck. I even tried applying for alexanderstreet.com with the credentials I’m affiliated with but none was eligible for it (It has to be at least a psychology/sociology credential, my educational ones weren’t).

    Posted by Rommie | September 9, 2018, 7:00 pm
    • My friend is a librarian and she wasn’t even able to access it. I’m hoping that the user uploading episodes to Youtube will do so soon as they have uploaded other missing episodes (Gabe/Vanessa, Mike/Jenny).

      Posted by Stefan | September 9, 2018, 10:16 pm
      • The reason he didn’t upload it yet is because he doesn’t have this episode. He is also missing other lost episodes like Michael and Randi, Marie, Jason and Joy. A&E is also doing a good job in blocking all canadian interventions being available to USA and every episode past season 13-14.He hasn’t given up yet, besides a strike from Youtube claiming the channel is pro-addiction, a claim which was forwarded by its own subscribers, which he filed a dispute and won.

        Posted by Rommie | September 10, 2018, 12:27 am
        • If you have Hulu, they have several episodes from seasons 8 – 18, I believe

          Posted by Sue Ellen Hegstrom | September 10, 2018, 7:28 am
        • How do you know this? Also, the Marie and Jason/Joy episodes aren’t missing, and Randi’s episode never seemed to actually air (Michael was bundled in with Adam in Season 2).

          Posted by Stefan | September 10, 2018, 9:36 pm
      • Gabe and Vanessa are on youtube, full length…thanks to Ramoin!

        Posted by Sue Ellen Hegstrom | September 10, 2018, 7:26 am
  15. I think this might be Betsy. https://www.lastingtributesfuneralcare.com/obituaries/Betsy-A-Bender-Johnson?obId=3190786#/celebrationWall The names of the people who commented their condolences are listed as her friends on the FB profile listed above. Couldn’t find anything else but the recent comments had me curious since this is an episode I’ve never seen so I did some searching to find it.

    Posted by Felicia F | September 10, 2018, 1:56 pm
  16. Can you update her as having died, and also update the location as being Annapolis? Thanks Dizzy!

    Posted by Stefan | September 12, 2018, 12:39 am
  17. My final gift to you all. See you around, brothers and sisters.

    Posted by Rommie | October 20, 2018, 11:35 am
  18. This episode is now available on YouTube thanks to the channel Ramoin! Check it out everyone!

    Posted by Holly | October 20, 2018, 12:06 pm
  19. Y’all beat me to it. I can’t wait to watch it after work!!!

    Posted by Stefan | October 20, 2018, 12:47 pm
  20. Damn disregard my last comment replying to Rommie. I’m a Ramoin sub and just read the comment.

    Posted by Jess | October 20, 2018, 1:57 pm
  21. I really can’t believe YouTube claimed Ramoins channel was “pro addiction”. Did they even read the comments from all of us subscribers? I guess you’d have to say A & E is a “pro addiction” channel then too, since they air intervention. What a ridiculous thing to say about someone’s channel that helps people every single day. We all got to share our fears, hopes, struggles, and recovery stories with people just like us. Great work Ramoin, I hope you’ll be back one day. Good luck with your recovery.

    Posted by Siouxsie | October 20, 2018, 3:00 pm
  22. Just finished watching it. Wow was Betsy a piece of work, right up there with Gabe the Gambler. On a side note, I felt that Jeff kinda failed during the Intervention by allowing her boyfriend to accompany her to treatment, which resulted in her not going at the last minute. I wonder if this is why the episode was yanked from all streaming services…

    Posted by Stefan | October 20, 2018, 4:04 pm
  23. Thank you Ramoin/Rommie for posting this missing episode, and best of luck to you in your treatment and recovery!! Betsy’s story is one of the saddest in the history of the series, and after having watched the episode it’s quite clear to me that there was an underlying mental illness in addition to the addiction. My first thought was major depression, but it could also have been borderline personality disorder or bipolar disorder. In addition to her addiction and mental health issues, it was also clear that she was not a happy woman. At any rate, I just hope and pray she finds the inner peace and happiness in the hereafter that clearly eluded her in this life.

    Posted by Janelle | October 20, 2018, 6:24 pm
  24. My jaw dropped when I saw Betsy’s episode was finally made available! Thank you Rommie!

    Posted by Meghan | October 20, 2018, 8:06 pm
  25. Wow Betsy was a hot mess. I really hope she found peace before she died.

    Posted by Andy | October 20, 2018, 10:46 pm
  26. Does anyone else realize that her friend Joani is recovering and an interventionist now due to the Dr Phil show. She appeared on Dr Phil several years ago because she was shooting pain medication.

    Posted by melissa | October 21, 2018, 3:57 am
  27. “I will only add that her aversion to being alone was at such odds with her compulsion to push everyone away, it’s striking.”

    Textbook Borderline Personality Disorder if I’ve ever seen it.

    Posted by Stefan | October 22, 2018, 12:00 am
  28. I was very curious about her progress after watching her episode on youtube (huge thanks to Ramoin) and found an online obituary for her that is different from the one listed above. This obituary (https://www.lastingtributesfuneralcare.com/obituaries/Betsy-Johnson/#!/Obituary) mentions that Betsy passed away after battling cancer. I think that sharing this may stop some of the speculation about her passing. Sincere condolences to her family and friends. May she rest in peace 🕯🕯💛

    Posted by Anonymouse | October 28, 2018, 12:13 pm
  29. Okay I’m not trying to be an astrology freak or anything but one thing I noticed Dizzy was when you mentioned how she was super clingy one second and then shuts everyone out the next second. I notice a very similar behavior from season 3 Pams episode. One thing I’ve noticed is they are both Aries. Not trying to offend anyone it’s just something I’ve observed.

    Posted by Andy | November 11, 2018, 8:07 pm
  30. I wanted to feel something for Betsy, but I really just couldnt. After she said she got lonely and cheated on her husband I felt no sympathy for her.

    Posted by Toreigh | November 30, 2018, 12:28 pm
  31. Betsy’s memorial slideshow:


    Posted by Stefan | March 6, 2019, 10:22 pm
    • Possible big news. I posted in the above video asking the question of why Betsy’s episode has been unavailable for years, and someone answered that it was because the Intervention production team planted bottles of wine all over the house to get her more drunk. I clicked on the user and it appears to be her childhood friend who was at her intervention (I can’t remember for sure since the episode is once again unavailable):


      Posted by Stefan | April 2, 2019, 6:15 pm
      • I work in TV production and I think it’s extremely unlikely the producers did that, although I wouldn’t doubt Betsy told her family that. She had a lot of money, she owned that coach house they filmed in (although she had no furniture). Her family was well off and obviously they reconciled at some point so I’m sure they sued to hide the episode. She did seem to have some serious mental health issues, if they highlighted that she signed the release while not in her right mind the network isn’t going to fight them to replay one episode.

        Posted by Kat | April 3, 2019, 1:04 pm
  32. Is her episode still on Ramoin’s YT collection?

    Posted by Sue Ellen Hegstrom | March 7, 2019, 2:29 pm
  33. This episode is (unfortunately) no longer available on youtube (Ramoin’s channel). If anyone has a different way to view it, please post.

    Posted by MMM | July 16, 2019, 3:40 pm
  34. This episode is no longer available anywhere after it was shutdown by A&E and the entire channel itself. I hoped people would eventually rip the YT episode and secure its availability somewhere but doesn’t seem like it. I managed to hunt down a first edition australian DVD that still had it and that’s how I found it. I also extensively investigated about Randi episode but never got anywhere aside from sources claiming it never aired but footage still exists. It just never got assembled into an actual episode, like many other episodes.
    There’s also Intervention Brazil episodes (like 12 in total) that aired for a short time but people don’t know they exist and it’s really hard to find.
    Anyway I will try to make Betsy episode available again but it won’t be (obviously) on Youtube.

    Posted by Rommie | August 27, 2019, 4:04 pm
  35. Has anyone managed to recover this episode? Desperate for it!

    Posted by Mag | June 5, 2020, 7:06 am

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