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Episode 220: Tiffany

Season 16, Episode 4

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Tiffany
Age: 32
Location:  Atlanta, Georgia
Addiction:  Heroin

Official Synopsis: Tiffany had the talent to be a successful graphic designer, but severe complications from the birth of her first child led to an addiction to prescribed pain pills. Then post-partum depression after her second and third pregnancies, resulted in an opiate addiction. After her husband took their three kids and filed for divorce, Tiffany became a full time heroin addict. Today, she has a new husband and baby, but her addiction is threatening to end the marriage, and if she doesn’t get help–her life.

Date Aired:  Dec 2016
Interventionist:
Sylvia

Categories: Heroin, Season 16, Sylvia, Traumatic Incident

Discussion

55 Responses to “Episode 220: Tiffany”

  1. I saw myself in this woman and her self awareness so deeply…. As a male with a heavy heart and an intellectual and emotional 70/30ish ratio (ha, to some’s chagrin) and she’s so painfully aware of her lifestyle and why she does what she does and she hadn’t even gone to rehab and she ended up in the same spot as me when she had surgery and was on pain meds and it opened up an addiction you always wonder if you would have developed naturally otherwise. But my surgery was important and life is just difficult and you can’t take back the past at all. I just feel for her and the fact her husband is so controlling and obnoxiously masculine to the point he’d rather be prideful and “right” rather than being happy…

    Posted by W | December 7, 2016, 10:07 am
    • I saw a lot of myself in Tiffany too, especially her how painfully self aware she is. I think her husband appeared to be quite a bit younger than her (she’s 32 although I think she looks quite a bit younger) and I’m guessing he’s in his early to mid 20’s so I’d imagine that attributed to many of the problems they were having. However I am not a male so you’d probably have a better insight into why he was acting the way he was than me. His comment during the intervention about how he was nervous at their wedding and because he didn’t feel deserving of her love was quite telling.

      Posted by Nicole | January 3, 2017, 12:13 am
    • For me, Tiffany’s self-awareness made her one of the most likable people that Intervention has featured. I found myself really rooting for her & actually found her journey inspiring. Finally–an uplifting episode of this depressing ass show!

      I see that others are criticizing on her husband….
      While controlling, her husband’s behavior seemed understandable given how badly she was fucking up her life…not to mention that she was potentially putting their baby in danger. I just hope she continues to do well & puts herself first right now. Very smart choice to stay out in CA for sober living instead of rushing home to all that stress.

      Posted by A | January 7, 2017, 1:02 am
    • I wonder if anyone knows how this precious family is doing! What a gorgeous, loveable, sweet family! So sad when drugs take over your life! I pray she has remained strong and clean! Anyone have an update?

      Posted by Ramona F | January 24, 2017, 2:52 am
  2. It’s really a shame that they don’t send the families to Betty Ford anymore. Tiffany’s family, especially her husband, need to address their codependencies. If he can’t accept that she’s out of his control for a few months then he has quite a lot of problems. I hope they’ve figured stuff out and saved the marriage but I’m afraid they’re probably not going to be together.

    Posted by Ruth | December 7, 2016, 6:07 pm
  3. I agree with Ruth’s comment above. Her husband really needed help too. i wasn’t sure about the control issues until the end. Sweet and caring guy but some red flags for sure.

    Tiffany is so extremely likeable, beautiful and self aware. Wishing her all the best.

    And Sylvia is just the most wonderful person on the planet. I want to hug her! She was born to do this and she’s brilliant at it.

    Liked the production on this episode. A good solid old-school episode.

    Posted by Kat R. | December 7, 2016, 7:51 pm
    • As I mentioned in an above comment I think that Wesley is quite a bit younger than Tiffany and that is causing a lot of the problems. I’d bet Wesley is 22-25, and she is 32, but I could be wrong.

      Posted by Nicole | January 3, 2017, 12:18 am
  4. Someone wrote on facebook, “I’ve seen almost every season of intervention and this one just didn’t seem real.” I could relate to that.

    Posted by Halley | December 7, 2016, 9:23 pm
    • It didn’t seem real and you can relate? Like what do you even mean by that? Maybe I’m taking that comment wrong(I Hope)If not then what are you talking about?? Delegitimizing anyone’s intervention is reckless, rude and selfish.. Sorry it didn’t make for good t.v for you.

      Posted by Steven Smith | January 4, 2017, 11:50 pm
  5. Tiffany may be the addict, but Wesley was the sickest person in the room. His controlling behaviour borders on abusive, and Sylvia was right – Tiffany will most likely not be able to stay sober if she goes back to him.

    Sylvia’s warm, loving, compassionate, non-confrontational, low-drama Southern grandma intervention style may not make for the best television, but I think it’s very effective and Sylvia was the perfect choice for an addict such as Tiffany.

    Posted by Janelle | December 8, 2016, 8:03 am
    • I agree with everything you said except one… Wesley’s behavior didn’t border on abusive, his behavior was text book abusive. Just as bad as physical abuse.

      Sylvia was perfect for Tiffany’s intervention. Her advice to stay in Cali and not go back to Mr. Creepy Obsessive guy, helped her more then the initial intervention!

      Posted by Steven Smith | January 5, 2017, 12:09 am
      • I was in SHOCK when I saw him on TV!!!! Ex boyfriend of mine and TOTALLY abusive!!! You have not misread anything!!!!

        Posted by Kelly | January 24, 2017, 5:34 pm
      • Kelly?? Are you serious he was your Ex boyfriend??? You were with him after Tiffany or before? That’s just really crazy.. If your tellin the truth that is. Just sayin

        Posted by Steven Smith | February 16, 2017, 3:06 pm
  6. Tiffany, I am rooting for your recovery! You seem like such a compassionate and well rounded lady and I hope you are supported by your husband and your family as you go through this journey.

    And a sincere bravo to Sylvia on this intervention. She truly has a heart of gold and I was so glad to see that she was selected for this intervention.

    Posted by Amanda | December 8, 2016, 8:15 am
  7. search up Tiffany Hudson Patton on facebook

    Posted by Anon | December 8, 2016, 10:12 am
  8. Does she see her 3 other children? I found her IG (private) and in her bio it said, “I’m very blessed with 4 amazing children”..?? No issue with that at all, just curious. It’s just watching her episode, it spoke about how she lost custody of her first 3 after her husband filed for divorce while she was in jail and that was it. Nothing about if she sees them through visitations or at all. The storyline then switched to how she met her current husband Wes and gave birth to their son, Noah. Again, I was just curious. I pray Tiffany is doing well ❤️ I can relate so well with her story. I have been clean from heroin since Dec 3, 2015. Before that tho, I too am a mother (tho I never lost custody) of 3 children under 10. I was on dope for a year and a half. I had to get help before it poured over into my focus away from my kids. Because while in my active addiction, I was using just enough to keep me from withdrawal. I still have feelings of shame when I look back. Right before I seeked treatment, I would do a line of dope in the bathroom of my daughter’s school, go out and talk to other parents/teachers at the PTO meetings. That’s when I would have like an “outer body experience”.. I would look or say to myself “wth am I doing?”

    Posted by Nicole | December 12, 2016, 10:45 am
  9. I love Sylvia, she does have a heart of gold like Amanda said, but isn’t afraid to speak the truth. Her, Seth and Jeff are my favorites. I like Candy and Ken a lot too. Don’t care for Donna.

    Posted by Holly | December 17, 2016, 9:30 am
    • Donna bashing seems to be a thing with some on this site. I don’t get it except for the obvious.

      Posted by michilines | December 18, 2016, 9:36 pm
      • The obvious?????

        Posted by Kristy | December 19, 2016, 4:25 am
      • Donna being a black woman? I like Donna but in some previous interventions she seemed a little too blunt or maybe a little too confrontational with the intervene. I think what counts ultimately is the outcome. If that works for her and the intervenes accept the gift, be that way!

        Posted by Eitan | December 19, 2016, 6:12 am
      • Michilines, Game over. You lose. My 2 of clubs beats your race card.

        Donna’s style is very in-your-face and confrontational. That’s effective with certain types of addicts (typically the ones who act all “bad-ass” and put up a hostile front – when faced with someone who won’t put up with their BS they usually back down). That style pisses off loads of people watching on TV and often elicits a negative response from viewers. However, I’ve also seen Donna be warm and compassionate with other addicts (for example Jonel, the Native American girl from Montana) and get good results. The compassionate Sylvia style is effective in dealing with addicts who are frail and vulnerable but not so much in dealing addicts who put up the “bad-ass” front.

        Posted by Janelle | December 19, 2016, 8:11 am
  10. Personally i really did not like this episode. She is probably the most selfish person I’ve watched from this show she has her mom and husband wrapped around her finger! Then at the end her deciding to stay in California seemed like she did that because she’s loving life on her own, which she kept dropping hints she wanted to do all through the show! I really hope her mom and Wesley have happy lives

    Posted by Kayla | December 18, 2016, 4:13 pm
    • Well Kayla I don’t think you were paying attention at all. First off addicts are all selfish equally. I guess you have to be one or have been one to understand that. The most selfish one in her story was her husband Wesley!! He is the most controlling loved one I have ever seen! I don’t care what a persons problem is, NOBODY deserves to have their personal space invaded! She was the one hurting, she needed more support from him and not for him to violate her personal property like going threw all of her things twenty times a day! Including her phone, her purse, or having her room ransacked. That’s not love. I think he was borderline crazy obsessed. The things he was doing is a great way to push someone further away and makes them want the drugs that much more. He said he was nervous at their wedding and felt like he didn’t deserve her love.(I don’t think he did!). I know how she felt and I think she was actually very nice to him even though he snuck around going threw HER THINGS! If she went back to that guy, I pray for her because there’s no way she can get well around him. That wasn’t love he showed.. It was jealousy, controlling and hard for me to watch. If I could get in touch with Tiffany Id tell her how much I could feel what she was going threw and how impressive I thought she handled that crazy situation. The tattoo on his left shoulder blade says a lot to me, not to mention how upset he was that she actually went!(over 80 texts messages over night after she had to turn off her phone?? I’m sure they weren’t supportive text either. I would love to be in good company with Tiffany any day! If she ends up single again, I would be more then happy to treat her like a man should!:) I think you should try watching the episode again. Not being mean here I just think she deserves a lot more credit then your giving her.

      Posted by Steven Smith | January 4, 2017, 2:36 am
      • can you describe the tattoo? we’re left hanging here… you refer to it, but many of us don’t know what you mean; i never saw it myself.

        Posted by renee | January 18, 2017, 4:01 pm
      • Steven, everyone is entitled to their own opinion. Just because you’re is different from Kayla’s doesn’t mean it’s better or that she needs to rewatch the episode and get a new outlook. My opinion is that it’s weird that you want to date Tiffany if she ends up single. People need to focus on themselves while they are working their recovery plan. Not have the extra stress of navigating a new relationship. This poor woman has had enough problems in her life from her ex husband and now from Wesley, seeing as they are not on good terms currently either.

        Posted by Holly | January 25, 2017, 10:42 am
      • I think the issue here is you attempting to hit on Tiffany, not Kayla’s comment. And seeing as how Tiffany is Wesley’s wife and son’s mother, I think that gives him a free pass to search her belongings to determine if she’s using.

        Posted by Nurse Sugar | March 22, 2017, 9:18 am
    • thank you for saying it. Yeah, tiffany is likable and very pretty, but it’s sooo irresponsible to keep having babies when you are screwed up and cannot care for them. Then to stay in calif. for so long — though you have a very needy infant at home… sorry, i can’t co-sign on that. In my view, little ones come first. In not being there when they are so helpless and young, she is scarring them for life. Guess what ? they’ll be so emotionally messed up, they’ll end up picking up themselves. I do feel like this girl is pretty selfish. Also, to run off to another marriage and baby after you’ve so completely messed up your first family is just way wrong. If you know youre a dope fiend, use birth control or something.

      Posted by renee | January 18, 2017, 3:58 pm
  11. It’s not “Donna bashing,” like it’s a personal attack against her. It’s that her style of intervening is aggressive. That may work with some of the people being intervened on, but it alienates others. I’m thinking particularly in Courtney’s case where Donna chased her down and yelled that she was being Marchman Acted into jail.

    Posted by Holly | December 19, 2016, 7:49 am
    • Yes, it is Donna bashing. The example you give illustrates that point. Other interventionists do what Donna did and are not bashed, but she is. Go back and read Courtney’s thread and you will see it. Donna wasn’t the first nor the last to threaten arrest as a consequence.

      I’m sorry to see Janelle join in. For some reason I can’t respond to Janelle’s comment directly. Donna is not always “in your face” as many claim. If that were the case, perhaps she would have been a better fit for Katie S. than Candy was — who failed miserably — no blame on Candy for that one.

      Posted by michilines | December 19, 2016, 9:11 pm
      • I agree. Donna is strong. She has to be. I have no problem with her style at all.

        Posted by Lagaya1 | December 19, 2016, 10:57 pm
      • Michilines, seems as though you stopped at my first sentence and missed the part where I said I’ve seen Donna be warm and compassionate with other addicts and get good results. Donna’s default style is being a hard-ass, but she’s willing to adapt if the situation requires it.

        Posted by Janelle | December 20, 2016, 10:32 am
    • Even sweet Sylvia had the law enforcement option at the ready on the last episode.

      I wonder how you would react if she had had to use it. I was relieved that she didn’t. Everything worked out.

      Do you think that Sylvia telling the family to all stand up when the addict came in was kindness? Perhaps the law enforcement option was the same tactic that Donna has used — dare I say aggressive? Or was it that Sylvia was preparing them for a bottom line in the case of an addict who refuses and is capable of violence?

      Posted by Michilines | December 20, 2016, 11:27 pm
  12. Just wanted to chime in and say that I think Donna was at her best with Sierra, who was in the midst of a meth psychosis most of the episode. I don’t think any of the interventionists could have succeeded with her the way that Donna did, she was the absolutely the right person for that and did a tremendous job. Just watch that episode if you want to see her be REALLY good at what she does. I have a huge amount of respect for Donna.

    Posted by Dizzy | December 20, 2016, 3:26 pm
    • I do as well, Dizzy. I just hate to read people who dismiss her out of hand.

      Given the responses to my comments, I think there is more than a little bit of bias in the knee-jerk disrespect of Donna in the comments here.

      Posted by michilines | December 20, 2016, 11:35 pm
      • I find it amusing when people pull the race/bias card just because they don’t agree with other people’s opinions. Not liking Donna’s style of intervening does not make me a racist, especially since you have no idea what race I belong to.

        Posted by Holly | December 22, 2016, 10:11 am
      • Okay no one called anyone a racist and the next comment that includes the term ‘race card’ will be removed. Michilines is justified in asking if and why there might be bias against Donna given that other interventionists have used her same strategies.

        Posted by Dizzy | December 22, 2016, 1:15 pm
    • Donna was awesome with Sierra, I totally agree. One of the best episodes.

      Posted by Nicole | January 3, 2017, 12:23 am
    • Thanks Dizzy for checking people when necessary, and someone definitely needed to be checked, haha! 🙂

      Posted by TM | February 13, 2017, 6:32 pm
  13. Jeff and Ken have always been hardasses, and have pulled moves similar to Donna in the Courtney episode. I personally hate it, and don’t believe that use of coercion or leveraging law enforcement against someone with substance use disorder is ever appropriate. But if we’re going to critique an interventionist and their tactics, let’s not scapegoat one above others…it smells wrong.

    Posted by Laura | January 3, 2017, 12:38 am
  14. This discussion is suppose to be about TIFFANY I thought?? I think your going way off track here and its annoying. Take this whole Donna discussion some place else please. She has nothing to do with Tiffany’s episode. Selfish really. If you go back to the home page, there is a place where people are actually debating about Donna if you want to talk about Donna.(SMH)

    Posted by Steven Smith | January 4, 2017, 2:48 am
  15. I was wondering why Tiffany didn’t go on antidepressants first. Doctors should ask new moms if they are having pp depression

    Posted by Dewey | January 16, 2017, 8:45 pm
  16. You Dated Tiffany husband? Wow Small world

    Posted by Dewey | January 24, 2017, 7:04 pm
  17. saw so much of myself in tiffany!The sneaking around hiding it from my parents and boyfriend. Finally gave up the lying and scheming and i finally have 5 months clean.

    Posted by bac3991 | January 25, 2017, 8:44 pm
  18. I wonder where Tiffany is now? I hope she is well and on the right track. She is to be admired for her honesty and self awareness of her addiction. I find her a talented and strong woman. I wish her the strength to forgive the past and embrace the future.

    Posted by Babs | January 26, 2017, 1:59 pm
  19. Some of u people r straight wackos! I’m just gonna say some of u r bashing the husband while here this woman lost 3 kids, get a fresh start w a new life & baby & here she is again! Too high to take care of that baby. He should’ve been gone w that kid like the 1st husband!

    Posted by Debbie | January 29, 2017, 7:49 pm
  20. I loved this episode so much I watched it a second time so my fiancé could see it too. I was trying to get him to understand the situation I was in from another perspective. I saw so much of myself in Tiffany from her addiction to her sneaking around and the way she did it. I acted so similarly during active addiction that this episode almost creeped me out! I’ve read a lot of people’s comments/views about her relationship with her husband Wesley and I can certainly agree with some of them. During the episode I admired him for staying with her and trying his hardest to help her get sober (as my S/O did). It was disappointing in the end to hear he had basically been harassing her (the 80 text msgs) while she was in treatment. That was a time where she needed to focus on herself and he needed to be understanding and loving. It said early on that they had met in treatment so he should know how hard it is to get clean, yet his actions seemed to show otherwise. I could tell that he does love her and cares a hell of a lot about her even though his actions were borderline obsessive. My fiancé acted similarly when I was still trying to hide my drug use. Anyhow, I truly hope the best for them because they are cute together IMO and I hope they have a happy, loving life with their son. I could for sure see myself being friends with her! I also didn’t mention how pretty I think she is; even after the drugs took their toll. Lucky girl! Tiffany’s story will definitely stick with me for a long time, it certainly hit home.

    Posted by Corinne P. | February 2, 2017, 4:17 pm
    • I was under the impression that they didn’t meet in treatment like thru AA or a treatment center but while she was in early sobriety, so possibly she met him while attending an intensive outpatient program or AA where she had access to people outside the recovery community. Wesley didn’t seem familiar enough with heroin (or drugs in general) or addiction to be a drug addict himself. However I could be mistaken. Did anyone else get the impression Wesley was not an addict himself?

      Posted by Nicole | February 3, 2017, 6:46 am
      • Well at one point in the show he left and she said something about him going to drink because she was doing drugs, which suggested to me he had a drinking problem at some time?

        Posted by Thelma | February 28, 2017, 8:14 pm
  21. yeah, i sure wondered if he was recovering from the same problem she has. Maybe his issue is alcohol or meth ? I would have to watch it again to hear the details, but i thought the show clearly pointed out that they met in recovery. Perhaps not the best idea (?) Esp now that we see his over-controlling behavior. This is an insidious behavior but still sick. My psycho mother tries it and swears that she’s just trying to “care”, but it’s manipulation and control, however you slice it. I’m still considering whether he crosses the line into nut case level. Guess so with the 85 texts, but she’s “taught” him how to treat her…. i mean, she’s put up with it, maybe encouraged it (?) Ann Landers used to say that you can’t be a doormat to people unless you act like one. True dat.
    I go back and forth with this guy since he does seem to show love…. but it’s a sick / possessive love. And that’s because he’s not secure in himself, and he comes right out and says it, too. And what WAS that tattoo people have referred to? someone said “it says a lot about him” (it’s on his back, as reported). I still don’t know what it is or what it says… who does? do tell ? Enquiring minds and all that. and ps yeah, we’ve all noticed how cute they are and how nice looking, etc…. Bad on us since we might not care the same if they were homely as heck !!!

    Posted by renee | February 3, 2017, 3:47 pm
  22. I wonder why they didn’t send Tiffany to a treatment center where she could take her child like they have in the past. Seems like that would be best to incorporate that into her program. Hope she is well!

    Posted by CC | March 9, 2017, 6:49 am
  23. Maybe I misread her but Tiffany came across as smug, almost proud of her addiction. Several times she has the small smile going on. She seemed very honest, though. Beautiful lady, too, it’s a real shame.

    Posted by Bekki | March 21, 2017, 4:16 pm

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