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Episode 155: Richard

Season 11 Episode 3

Age: 34
Location: Toronto, Ontario, Canada
Addiction: Meth
What’s memorable: The pain and abuse he suffered as a child, how delusional he is about how meth is affecting his life and what he thinks it does for him, the non-intervention, the icky and sad predilection toward incest-themed sexual encounters. “I’ve been anticipating the desires of adult males since I was 5 years old.” – Richard.

Official Synopsis: A 34-year-old gay man, Richard grew up knowing he was different and never feeling accepted. His stepfather disciplined him severely for his effeminate behavior. Today, Richard lives in subsidized housing and has done everything from dealing to prostituting himself to support his meth addiction. Richard’s family will have to make amends to him if they hope to get through to him.

Original Air Date: January 2012
Interventionist: Candy

Categories: Candy, Childhood Physical Abuse, Childhood Sexual Abuse, Childhood Violence, Death of Loved One, Homosexuality, Meth, Most In-Denial Addicts, Most Powerful Episodes, Religious Family, Season 11


27 Responses to “Episode 155: Richard”

  1. I am moved by this story. It felt as if I was watching my own son. My son is sooooooo much like Richard. Beautiful Man!!!!!!

    What has happened to him and how is he?

    I also relate on a personal level even though I am a mother of 4.

    Posted by Tina | May 14, 2014, 11:32 pm
  2. Richard, if you or any of your family member or friends ever read this, please know what I’m about to express is so true. Last night, I happened to watch a re-run of Intervention, with you being the star of the episode and seeing it had been my second time in a matter of a couple of years.
    I see that picture of an elementary school aged boy, with brown hair and I believe that young boy still lives so bright and alive inside of you, even though we see you as 36 and a young man. That bright and shining little boy is full of hopes, dreams, happiness and wonderful wishes for the future.
    The anger, sadness, confusion, abandonment and abuse that you have endured through the worst times of your life are valid, understandable and AREN’T your fault.
    I pray you are still here with us and I pray that you never turn your back on yourself, that beautifully strong young man- because to do that would mean turning your back on all your dreams and your dreams are what YOU are here to do.
    No matter how long it takes, just know that you aren’t alone and making yourself proud can by far, bring a much richer smile to your face and to your heart.
    ~Never Alone~
    Hitch Your Wagon to the Stars,

    Posted by Leslie | February 21, 2015, 1:47 pm
  3. How is Richard today? Is he still clean?

    Posted by HDex | February 22, 2015, 12:13 pm
  4. Where is Richard at today? (good vibes)

    Posted by ktat3890 | February 23, 2015, 7:47 pm
  5. I watched this one recently, it was hard to watch. What unbelievable pain he has been through, and his loneliness was unbearable. Just wanted to give him a hug. Richard, wherever you are now, I hope you feel safe and loved.

    Posted by Kat | February 28, 2015, 10:38 pm
  6. Richard I pray you read this.. I seen a rerun of your episode and would greatly like to know how you are now.
    You have such a strong beautiful soul and it shines thru you, even with the drugs clouding you on the show.
    I must say your strength in dealing with your family and the severe lack of understanding for rape victims, abuse and being different. Especially your “brother” it made me sick to my stomach. Anyways… I pray you have stayed strong and you sonehow read this… you can be a great influence to not only rape victims but people who are different… much love and prayers to you from north carolina!!

    Posted by Tonya | September 1, 2015, 11:38 pm
  7. Just watched the episode of Richard and felt i had to look into how hes doing.

    He’s sober and doing amazingly by the looks of it! He is on social media sites ans not difficult to find if you’re interested in checking out his success for yourselves.

    Posted by Clare | September 11, 2015, 10:01 pm
  8. Hello! I’m a good friend of Richard’s, and can tell you that he is living a great, sober life. He took to the AA model and “made amends” with me; it was like experiencing a whole new person. He was nervous, I was nervous – like we were meeting for the first time. I have always had all the love for him, no matter how crazy and demanding he could get, and I’ve never made music with anyone else. We did a small set together a little while back, my first time on stage in something ridiculous like 10 years (videos are online!). He has a partner and a few dogs, and is a much healthier human. And yes, his childhood experience really was quite terrible; the show (which I’ve only been able to watch once) just couldn’t adequately capture that, i don’t think.

    Posted by ON GUITAR | September 17, 2015, 12:39 pm
  9. Awesome! He seemed like a really cool person underneath the addiction.

    Posted by Tobie | August 27, 2016, 4:38 pm
  10. I grew up in that same small town and Richard was my childhood friend. He held things together well as a kid to us at school with him I wasn’t aware of most of what he talked about in the show which just goes to show you how a person can cover up so much. Richard is living a sober life and we talk online occasionally. So proud of him and happy that he’s been able to move past his struggle and become who he is now! 🙂 Love ya Richard

    Posted by Carly | January 30, 2017, 9:12 pm
  11. I’m so delighted to hear that beautiful Richard is sober, happy and healthy! His episode was very powerful !

    Posted by Martha Story Jones | February 2, 2017, 12:42 pm
  12. Hi, Richard I recently watched a segment of Intervention and watched your family helping with your drug intervention. I hope that this small email brings you comfort and love. My
    thoughts and prayers are that you doing much better. Take care and God bless you.

    Posted by B Bell | March 6, 2017, 5:14 pm
  13. This story is NOT an accurate portrayal of what goes on with Jehovah’s Witnesses. Mothers are allowed to speak up and leave the husband if their children are in danger. There are actually Witnesses who have a same-sex attraction. They simply choose not to give in to those urges so they can have God’s favor. Fathers who abuse their children are punished by the elder body in the congregation, or they should be. Even if they manage to hide, God will judge them in the end.

    Posted by Barbara | October 5, 2017, 4:52 pm
    • Note to the 15 people who replied to this and anyone else about to respond to this comment: Unless you can be respectful, don’t say it. Barbara is giving what sounds to me like the Jehovah’s Witness position on abuse and homosexuality. There’s absolutely no reason to be rude just because you don’t agree with the religion. Make an argument if you have one, or provide more information about the religion if you know more. But don’t be a dick just because you don’t believe the same thing. Thanks.

      Posted by Dizzy | October 17, 2017, 6:06 pm
  14. I’m so glad to hear he’s doing well. I would be that guy’s friend all day, every day.

    Posted by Tobie | July 1, 2018, 1:41 am
    • Me too. He was one of the more likeable addicts, and he had one of the crappiest childhoods of any person shown. He’s lucky to be living in Toronto, which has plenty of support for people like Richard and is one of the best places on earth for an LGBTQ person to be in. I’m curious if he’s been able to mend fences with his self-righteous douche bag of a brother (or, perhaps whether the brother was able to mend fences with Richard).

      Posted by Janelle | July 2, 2018, 1:24 pm
  15. This episode was an absolute horror show. All of these things happening to this poor kid and no adult or parent in his life protecting him… Unconscionable. And then if that wasn’t bad enough, his lone protector being taken away from him. He deserved so much better.

    I’m glad to see the update that he’s clean and doing well.

    Richard, I hope you continue to find happiness and surround yourself with those who accept and love you for who you are. But above all, put your health and wellbeing first. Best wishes.

    Posted by Ida Mae | August 20, 2018, 6:01 pm
    • My best friend was a JW and she got brutally raped one night….. The JW elders’ response was to blame her for it and throw her out of the only family she ever knew. They interrogated her for hours…… after such a tramatic event. And, In the end, they said it was HER fault because of the shirts she wore and men’s sexually can’t be helped…. I SHIT YOU NOT!!!!!
      So…. Now I talk to the young girl JWs EVERY TIME they come to my door…. Just to relay this story….. And I NEVER DO IT VISCOUSLY – ONLY OUT OF A PLACE OF LOVE… That’s the only way you can reach people…

      Posted by Nell | December 19, 2018, 11:36 am
  16. Looks like he’s doing well. https://www.instagram.com/richardandrewkikot/?hl=en

    Posted by Andy | October 8, 2018, 8:56 am
  17. Richard’s story was a real tear jerker for me. All the pain he’s endured, I could feel it too. I hope he was able to recover!

    Posted by Jamie | October 18, 2018, 10:51 am
  18. Watching this episode now, I’ve seen all episodes at least 2x… where is Richard today?? Is he ok, did he ever go in rehab or other program?? Richard if you’re reading this, you have folks who care & adore you & wish you nothing but the best!! Let us know how you are😊 many prayers your way🙏😊

    Posted by Sandy | November 13, 2018, 9:01 am
  19. As a mother myself, I could never choose my religion or my marriage over the love and protection of my children. Never. I have 2 boys and if either of them seemed “different” or to be flat out, gay, I wouldn’t treat them any differently and my love for them would never change. Nevermind be embarrassed or worried about my own self image. When you become a parent life isn’t all about you anymore. Its up to you to love and protect your children. Unconditionally. Gay straight odd or normal. And to let your husband beat on your son, especially one that isnt even yours to be putting your hands on… Fuck that. My foot would have been so far up that dudes ass. I feel that maybe had his mother chosen to be there for him as a child that his sexual abuse would have been broughr up to her at a much younger age because he would have felt more comfortable talking to her.
    I apologize for my rant. This episode just truly pissed me off.

    I’m glad to hear richard is doing awesome and has battled his demons and addiction. I wish him well.

    Posted by Toreigh | November 27, 2018, 4:23 am
  20. Thank God Candy was the interventionist for this one with that brother of his…

    Posted by KJ | August 7, 2019, 2:56 am
  21. Oh my God. Richard had a friend who was murdered by a serial killer. He made a victim impact statement in court.


    Posted by Melissa Abrams | April 1, 2020, 2:47 am

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