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Episode 162: Kaylene

Season 11 Episode 12


Age: 21
Location: Barnardsville, North Carolina
Addiction: Pain meds (Percocet mostly) and Xananx
What’s memorable: Girl gets giddy when she’s high! At least when she’s not passing out. She seems really convinced that she’s super happy and loving her life. Her entire goal right now is to just have a good time and get away from all the pain she’s had in her life. I get that. But she is SO not seeing how it’s affecting the people she loves. Watching her mother and 7 year old sister go through the little girl’s penny jar in order to give Kaylene money for drugs is pretty awful and heartwrenching. And that intervention! Holy crap, the tears, they were rollin. There’s a reason why these things work – having someone you love dearly say the thing you’ve been wanting them to say forever, to show emotion that you didn’t know they were capable of, is an incredibly powerful thing.

Official Synopsis: As a child, Kaylene was physically abused by her father. Later, she and her mother began using coke together. Now Kaylene is a 21-year-old who oozes sweetness and charm but who is unafraid to die and will stop at nothing to get her next fix. After so many years of neglect, can Kaylene’s family finally step up and help her get the live-saving treatment she so desperately needs?

Original Air Date: March 2012
Interventionist: Donna

Categories: Abusive Relationship, Benzodiazepines, Childhood Physical Abuse, Childhood Violence, Donna, Pain Meds, Percocet/Oxycodone, Season 11


48 Responses to “Episode 162: Kaylene”

  1. I just saw this episode and I was wondering if anyone had any updates on Kaylene and her family. She’s a beautiful girl and some things she went through really resonated with me. I bawled like a baby at her Intervention. She seems like someone I would probably be friends with in real life. I would love to talk to her and offer her kind words of encouragement and support, and to share with her my story. I truly hope things are better for her now.

    Posted by Rain | January 27, 2015, 2:06 am
  2. Edited to correct typos:

    I second everything you said, Rain. I was really moved by her and hope her and her little sister and mom have had some healing and are healthy and happy happy. .

    Posted by lolly | April 4, 2015, 5:08 pm
  3. Am I the only one who thinks Kaylee is not a sister but Kaylene’s daughter?

    Posted by beeve | May 17, 2015, 4:00 pm
    • That makes sense!

      Posted by kristy | May 19, 2015, 12:13 pm
    • I got the same impression about her sister. it just seems like it was her daughter. The mother is so codependent it would make sense that she would go that far to protect Kaylene from having to raise her daughter. This story was so moving. I cried so much during this show! just wanted to move wherever she was living and take care of her and teach her about how to stay clean. But that’s my need to be of use to somebody else to feel as though I matter.

      Posted by Lynn | September 8, 2017, 6:57 am
    • I’ve always thought that too

      Posted by Rusty | February 19, 2018, 7:22 am
    • She was my best friend when we was kids. That is her sister. We was still friends when her mom was pregnant and had Kaylee. Kaylene has just always been close and good to her little sister.

      Posted by Summer Riddle | November 24, 2020, 10:22 am
  4. That would be nuts, but now that you say it, it doesn’t seem hard to believe. But then again, she was born when kaylene was still 14. It happens but it’s very rare

    Posted by ReCoVeRy | May 19, 2015, 10:00 pm
    • Looking at her parents, they look a tad old to be having young children. Also, who names their kids names so close together – “Kaylee” and “Kaylene”. She didn’t start using til Kaylee was 2, ergo running around and getting all the attention. I don’t believe it’s as rare as you think, on my own I know at least three people who had daughters that became sisters and the little one was not told, but would have figured it out once she a)saw her birth certificate or b) learned that her “mom” had a hysterectomy before she was born. It’s messed up bit it happens.

      Posted by beeve | May 20, 2015, 7:52 am
    • I myself have a sister who is 14 years younger than me. Mom was 38 when she had her, and I treated her like she was my own child, hell I still do!

      Posted by Melissa | July 11, 2017, 5:39 pm
  5. Her story was one that got to me. Most of the addicts seem SOOOO miserable, and here she is saying she’s an amazing sister, and is just really happy…it got to me. I just wanted to give her a hug. Her Mom’s relationship with her was super co-dependent and I don’t think they probably got the help needed post Intervention to change that, she seemed like she would always be an enabler. I did a little snooping on FB and found her, it looks like she has a baby boy. Hope she’s doing better and is able to be a good mom. I always root for people to change…her case is no different. Hope she is healthy and happy!

    Posted by Savannah | May 29, 2015, 11:52 am
  6. Beeve…that was totally my first thought too!!

    Posted by Janine | June 3, 2015, 8:14 am
  7. Updates? Does anyone know how
    Is she doing? Beautiful girl, hope she is okay!

    Posted by Vanessa | August 1, 2015, 7:24 am
  8. So she’s on methadone, BFD. She just traded one addiction for another. The fact that she only lasted nine days in treatment speaks volumes to the fact that she’s not really interested in a change. And southern families are all about going out of their way to hide closeted skeletons. I’m sure the sister is actually her daughter.

    Posted by Someguy | September 25, 2015, 11:36 am
    • Plus, there is no middle class in the Southern Appalachians. You’re either filthy rich or dirt poor, and these people clearly are not the former. There is no work and no opportunities, and she does not appear to be educated. What else is she going to do except deal drugs?

      Posted by Someguy | September 25, 2015, 11:57 am
      • That’s completely untrue; there absolutely is a middle class in the moutains. I grew up in Asheville (Barnardsville is not far away). There are definitely very poor people (especially the farther you get outside of the city), but I grew up in a middle class family and I had a lot of friends that were from middle class families as well. I’ve lived all over North Carolina, and the Appalachians really aren’t any different from the rest of the state in terms of socioeconomics.

        Posted by Quit with the stereotypes | March 20, 2016, 5:26 pm
      • What kind of mess was that? There absolutely IS a middle class there. It’s no different than anywhere else. Being in the mountains and raising children in small areas like that are perfect for the middle class. Maybe you watch too much tv.

        Posted by Ingrid Carolina Girl | July 19, 2016, 4:27 am
  9. Definitely her daughter. I came to the same conclusion…So many viewers can’t be wrong, and pretty easy to reach.

    If all if the above examples re: ages of Kaylee and she mentions in the beginning that SHE was the one who named Kaylee….well, that and a bunch of other clues. I do hope she and her family are doing well.

    Posted by Elyse | November 25, 2015, 7:44 am
    • Exactly! Her mother is a monster as well for staying with a man who abused Kaylene, broke her fingers, and had a child with his own 14 year old daughter! She then covers it up and spends her life trying to make up for it. Guilt trip much! Smfh Kaylene never stood a chance with that fucked up family. I just hope she gets away from them and that town. My heart goes out to her because she still is able to smile through it all.

      Posted by LilaJ | August 2, 2018, 10:49 am
  10. https://www.facebook.com/kaylene.banks?__nodl
    It looks like she has a kid, maybe 2.

    Posted by Anthony | December 8, 2015, 2:07 pm
  11. This episode hit me pretty hard. I know girls exactly like Kaylene. I live only a few hours away from where she is from and the person above who said there are no opportunities here is completely correct. Pain pills are saturated here in small towns. I hope Kaylene is able to stay clean, but honestly it’s hard being in a small town in the south.

    Posted by t.toro | January 5, 2016, 4:48 pm
  12. She got back with her husband and now has two kids. I found her Facebook. It doesn’t have much but pictures.

    Posted by Ali M | April 6, 2016, 10:59 am
  13. Looks like her grandmother, or “Me-maw” passed away in 2013.

    Posted by Madeline | September 21, 2016, 10:40 am
  14. I know this is totally petty in the grand scheme of things but it absolutely drove me NUTS how they’re all constantly ripping butts, especially around the little girl – in her room and everything.. friggin gross. Smoke outside!!! Shit, even when I was a smoker I always smoked outside.. who wants to smell like an ashtray constantly, and let’s not forget about 2nd & 3rd hand smoke… JFC.

    Posted by Petty AF | February 16, 2017, 4:25 am
  15. I’m sorry to be negative but the ending kind of made me mad. Her father says sorry, then next word gives an excuse. “I was young.” What a horrible excuse. You were a monster. You have scared her permanently emotionally and physically. You were a monster and you need help. But I guess it’s my place, and what’s right for one may night be right for another. Just made me mad.

    Posted by Nick | August 17, 2017, 12:33 pm
  16. Anyone have any updates on her? She seemed like such a sweet soul, she had a terrible childhood. The dad definitely needed help as well. I read she has kids, but is she clean of Methadone? I pray for this girl!

    Posted by KenzieKenz | September 24, 2017, 2:51 pm
  17. Just came to agree that Kaylee was Kaylene’s daughter. Explains the name too. Would love an update too, hope she’s doing well! Intervention should just do a whole season of updates.

    Posted by Amanda | February 20, 2018, 1:06 am
  18. The show stated that the 2 used cocaine together…it clearly appears that the mother has some kind of a “picking” addiction that comes with methamphetamine use. But Candy would have suggested that the mom go to rehap too if that was the case. Maybe the Mom just has bad skin? But in the earlier pictures the Moms skin was beautiful, so who knows?

    Posted by clevelandgirl | February 21, 2018, 7:51 am
  19. I live near her as well. Its not so much the lack of jobs as its family traditions and education, the backwards, country folks, live some crazy lives. I think the dad was the root of all the problems. Any man who brakes daughters fingers need to be committed. What a sad excuse for a man. Its just disturbing, but to many familys around here its quite the norm. Men act all tuff but are actually a bunch of backwards pu#$ys. Alot lack courage to call in sick at work, they have their wives do it. Someone has to break the cycle.

    Posted by J PACE | February 21, 2018, 6:12 pm
  20. The relationship between Kaylene and her mom is twisted! Ugh… mom can’t get into a relationship because Kayline might get jealous? Yikes that’s messed up…

    Posted by Jeri | May 5, 2018, 3:28 pm
  21. its a shame some of you are so disrespectful about Kaylee and say that Kaylene is her mother, I doubt that is true and it is very common for such age gaps in siblings. Secondly if you watch the show you can clearly see her mother has bandages on her face from obvious surgery. I pray this family as a whole finds love and happiness as they deserve. And people should get better manners, if you cant say anything nice you shouldn’t say anything at all, it is clear this family has been through enough they don’t need all the nattering opinions on top of it. Bless their hearts and their lives.

    Posted by Mandy | August 17, 2018, 5:52 pm
  22. i immediately had the same thought as everyone else. that kaylee was her daughter. anyway, she seems so sweet and good hearted. i hope she is doing well!

    Posted by Brooke | July 4, 2019, 2:34 pm
  23. I thought the same about kaylee and kaylene; hoe Ed, my sis and I are 15 yrs apart. I’m wondering was the mom “stoned” during this episode and did the mom ever get help? Mentally I thought the mom needed more help and the sperm donor needs to be given a “what fer!”

    Posted by Patricia Davis | March 3, 2020, 11:24 pm
  24. Looks like she took Banks as her last name back. There is a Facebook page that was active until 2016. In pictures she has 2 kids and is engaged. His page is also not really active since 2015. Her mother’s page is also active but mostly stuff she shares. Her sister had multiple pages but not much there either. It is like she has fallen off the earth. Hope she is doing well and still enjoying sober living.

    Posted by Christy | July 18, 2020, 10:45 pm
    • Me too. I really hope she is sober. I agree with most of the comments on here. Something about this girl made me pull for her. She not only now completely adorable. She has a beautiful smile and just a beautiful charm about her. You couldn’t help but pull for this young girl to get sober.
      The fact that you think her little sister is her daughter is neither here nor there. Who cares about that.
      I’m just hoping and praying she is well, sober and happy.
      I would love to hear a real update on her.
      God bless…. good night

      Posted by Jane Pineda | July 20, 2020, 10:58 pm
  25. Kaylene is a beautiful girl. I hope she’s been able to stay sober. Her father should be in jail for the rest of his life and have his fingers broken one by one for the treatment of her as a child. He failed her and is an awful human. Too little too late for an apology.

    Posted by J. | September 14, 2020, 7:16 pm
  26. I love this episode because I believe that Kaylene is a beautiful girl with a lot of trauma. I did a little research and it turns out that her mom has a drug problem as well. She was arrested in 2007/2008 for drug paraphernalia possession. So Kaylene’s trauma is not just the total fault of her father. The mother clearly has problems as well. Sad exposure for a child. I hope she’s doing well. She hasn’t been on social media for the past few years as far as I’ve seen.

    Posted by P. | September 19, 2020, 5:20 am

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