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Episode 172: Cher

Cher

Cher
Age: 50
Location: Dana Point, California
Addiction: Alcohol (vodka)
What’s memorable: Cher’s alcoholism seems to have made her a pretty awful person to be around.  She’s just so mean and needy and sensitive, so desperate for attention; the things she does and says to try and force her family to “love” her, to treat her the way she thinks she deserves to be treated. The way she harangues her dying father and tries to make her daughter feel guilty for having her own life is just horrific. The followup was briefly awesome.

Official Synopsis: Loud and spunky 50-year old alcohol addiction has led to liver damage and is driving a wedge between herself and her family.
Original Air Date: October 2012
Interventionist: Seth

Categories: Alcohol, Childhood Physical Abuse, Childhood Violence, Season 12, Seth

Discussion

8 Responses to “Episode 172: Cher”

  1. She seems like she could be a fun person if she couldve stayed sober. Too bad she immediately relapsed. Im wondering if she found out her dad passed when she got out, like maybe the family kept it from her in treatment? Just a thought. I hope Brooke doesnt let her mother bring her down, and I wish her and her fiance- maybe husband now?- a good life.

    Posted by Sarah Thomas | January 18, 2015, 9:04 pm
  2. I was really shocked at how selfish this woman is. I know addiction can make people selfish, but to expect her daughter to give up her life so she could have a constant ego boost just made me angry. I hope her daughter goes out and lives the best life she can.

    Posted by Erin | December 3, 2015, 12:38 pm
  3. I had a “diagnosed” Narcassistic Mother. They are HORRIBLE to grow up with. And having alcohol added on top?? I can’t imagine.

    Posted by Mandy Nolan | January 21, 2016, 12:05 am
    • I have a narcissistic mother and I thought the same thing. I could see the signs. She was a great mom until Brooke was about 7 or so, which is when children start to see themselves as seperate from their mother. My mom is the same way. Also the constant need for attention, one of my moms nicknames growing up was “the COA” for Center Of Attention. It’s all drama, it’s all a show, there are no deep emotions. My mom isn’t an alcoholic, and it’s possible that Cher would be a good mother if she wasn’t, but she is… I really commend her son in law for what nice things he said about her, even though she seemed to poke and pick at him.

      Posted by Nicole | March 24, 2016, 11:39 pm
      • Mine mother is disordered, and I saw the signs too. I was very impressed with her daughter’s ability to set boundaries and her daughter’s boyfriend’s support of the daughter.

        Posted by Leaflet | February 24, 2017, 9:49 pm
    • I believe she is more likely to Borderline Personality Disorder than NPD. It is those with Borderline who are constantly needy for love and approval and terrified of abandonment, going to insane lengths to try to keep their loved ones from leaving or rejecting them, which often has the opposite effect. I’m surprised she wasn’t diagnosed in treatment. With DBT therapy many people with Borderline can actually learn to break these negative needy patterns and go on to have healthier, happier relationships and lives. I am not surprised she relapsed, but with the right therapy she could get better. I really hope she does.

      Posted by BARBARA | March 23, 2017, 3:49 am
  4. oh my gosh… I got to say that this was one of the most needy addicts. Her poor daughter… I hope she gets sober and I hope her daughter and her husband are happily married

    Posted by Brooke | January 22, 2016, 2:13 pm
  5. When I watched this I had a huge amount of compassion for Cher. She was a repeatedly traumatized kid. She was beaten randomly by her father, without any apparent provocation. She was so obviously a shell of a person, who was never allowed to ask “why” she was being hit. So of course she internalized all kinds of negative ideas about herself. No one ever helped her cope with that long-term abuse. It doesn’t surprise me that she self-medicates with alcohol. It seems as if she hadn’t had any real therapeutic experiences before this intervention. To recover from this kind of trauma, from the entire childhood of walking on eggshells and being abused, takes LOTS of therapy. Her relationship to her daughter is of course very problematic. She needs support from some other source than her daughter, and if she doesn’t have it, recovery is going to be much less likely.

    Posted by dw acaria | May 12, 2016, 3:22 pm

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