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S8E4 Andrew

Season 8, Episode 4

Andrew

Age:  21
Location: London, Ontario, Canada
Addicted to: OxyContin
What’s Memorable: The living in a motel room with his 2 little brothers and father because his addiction (and his dad’s gambling) has bankrupted them.

Official synopsis:  Once bright, likable, and athletic, Andrew has become a gaunt, menacing OxyContin addict. As a child, Andrew learned to manipulate his father, Dan, who now admits, “I can’t stand up to Andrew. He’ll threaten to commit crimes and trash our motel room. I’d rather give him money for a pill than have him out robbing innocent people.” Andrew, his father, and two brothers have been evicted seven times due to property damage and financial hardship, and they can go days without food. Can an intervention help Andrew–and make his father realize that if he doesn’t get tough with Andrew, the whole family will be destroyed?

Original Air Date: July 2010
Interventionist: Jeff

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  1. ashley

    where am I able to watch this episode?

    1. Dizzy

      Netflix streaming is your best bet. All of Seasons 1-10 are there. If you don’t have Netflix you may be able to catch it on the A&E site or Hulu but no guarantees, those sites rotate the episodes they make available.

  2. Robert Maybeth

    It’s being shown on LMN (sp?) network on time warner as of today July 31 2014.

  3. Jordy

    This was a scary episode, what with the situation with the dad and younger brothers. What ever happened to this family?

  4. InterventionAddict

    Hands down my favorite family–Andrew, his bros, and his dad that is. The loyalty of the brothers to both Andrew and their dad was powerful and moving. So too the dad’s loyalty to his sons.

    Yeah, it may have been “dysfunctional” … but one hardly finds that level of loyalty and love in even the most functional families (If such a family even exists).

    I’d sure like to find some update on Andrew et al.

  5. kitty katt

    The part that killed me was when the younger brother spoke at the intervention saying he would go to school hungry and have no money for lunch just so Andrew can have money for his drugs.

  6. Alexis J

    Anyone know how Andrew and his family are doing now? I caught a reairing of this episode this week and saw the end note that Andrew had relapsed briefly on heroin, then returned to treatment and has been sober since 2010, but it’s been awhile! I was touched by the love and pain this family shared and really wish the best for all of them.

  7. Clois Reid

    I would LOVE an update on this family! Anyone know?

  8. Alice Schmid

    what about the dad?

  9. KM

    Did they ever say why the mom kicked all of her kids out?

  10. Brooke

    i gotta be honest, i initially felt sympathy for the mom. i think the dad’s inability to discipline and set boundaries caused this whole mess. for the obvious reasons (no consequences and too much freedom) but also bc it made the boys hate their mom and think that her discipline was lack of love. of course then she went off the rails and although probably a lot of that was frustration and desperation as a result of the dad’s inability to discipline and set boundaries, you still don’t do that to your kids. i also get SO frustrated by the episodes with INSANE levels of codependency and enabling. to the point where the father is ruining his other kid’s lives. the other kids have to go hungry so andrew can have $ for drugs? he allows andrew to do drugs right in front of the other kids? and of course the gambling. i honestly feel like child protective services should have been called in long ago for all that abuse. but luckily andrew got help with the drugs as well as the dad with the gambling and they all seem to be doing well. because in the end, it’s clear they love each other so much and a healthy together family is the ideal. i hope they are still in a good place.

    1. Sudie

      I really have issues with the dad. I have a feeling that even though he quit gambling, he may still be a pushover…even after rehab. My family situation is similar.

  11. Maggie S

    Anyone else weirdly never watch this one before? I’ve seen every episode multiple times and always would scroll past because the photo they use reminded me of a different person whose episode I’ve seen too many times.

    When dad is in rehab and says he can’t wait to be in charge, what a moment. Wishing the best for these guys!

  12. Sudie

    The dad gets under my skin. Not very fond of him, really, but I do hope he is thriving. The younger boys deserve more stability, which his aunts and uncles can give him.

  13. Bob

    Unfortunately, 10 years later Things have only gotten worse in London, Ontario, Canada. It has been slammed by Oxy addiction and homeless addicts abound in the downtown core.

    Side note: the intervention was filmed at the Sheraton Armoury hotel.

    1. KJ

      Oh that’s terrible 🙁

  14. Sudie

    Any updates on the family itself? I’m still hinky about the dad b/c I’ve seen his parenting style in others, and he’s sacrificing his two younger sons in favor of the older son. I understand why, but I don’t like it. The cognitive dissonance in the situation where everyone in his extended family sees this except for him (and the boys’ grandmother) is staggering. I honestly hope he’s staying strong in the face of it all.

  15. Me

    Met the family some 10 yrs ago great people are doing well

  16. L.K.

    Honestly the father on this episode was infuriating to me. This is one of the worst codependent parents I’ve ever seen on the show. I can’t imagine putting a loved one’s addiction first to such an extent that you completely don’t care about the wellbeing of your two other children. And brainwashing the other two into thinking the situation was normal and fine (the youngest was literally sitting right there while Andrew snorted lines and the dad didn’t care at all) and also into ignoring his own gambling addiction?? I would imagine that they may have resented their father and/or brother as a result of this, but I wonder if he had them so manipulated that they didn’t even think or feel anything remotely negative/critical towards him or their brother. Codependency is a hell of a drug, man. I hope that the help he received in treatment made a difference in his life, because his enabling and manipulative behavior was shocking and toxic as hell.

  17. ANON

    Unpopular opinion but the mother cared more about her kids than the father. He alienated his children from her by making her the only disciplinarian and enabling/befriending his kids to the point of undermining the only responsible adult in their lives. She didn’t abandon her kids she snapped from being gaslit by their father

    1. Ombré Roses

      I have to say- this is literally why I came to this thread. Without more information, I am lead to imply that perhaps she knows how to put in place boundaries.

  18. Andrew Deactis

    HI ALL !!! So it’s been a very long time so nice all this went down and my wife told me I should do an update and to read the comments left behind in this thread . First off thank you very much for all the kind words and thoughts and for being honest about your thoughts . I won’t get into the past on here however I will say I have been living a clean and amazing life ever since the second treatment centre !!!
    Here Is where I’m at now , I got back in touch with my childhood crush from my young church going days and we hit it off like crazy “ complete magic” we now have 3 young healthy beautiful children and are living a free and fun life on our 2 acre hobby farm with 2 horses , beef cattle every other year , chickens, dogs , cats, fish and reptiles hahahaha a very busy lifestyle but we. Love it. I have an amazing career that I strive very hard to be the best at making 6 figures a year now “ beats being homeless eh lmao” we have travelled to Italy which Is where we got engaged and are getting ready to get some rays down south in 3 days . It’s a well needed vacation for us . And as for my family well we are a happy healthy family once again Both brothers are very successful in there lifestyles as well as my mother and father !!!! I don’t think we have all ever been so close to each other on a healthy level as we are now .

    Thank you again for reaching out and keeping my family in your thoughts . Take care .

    1. Dizzy

      Andrew thank you so much for updating us! It’s so great to hear that you’re healthy and happy and that your family is in a good place.