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Season 11 Episode 3

Richard

Age: 34
Location: Toronto, Ontario, Canada
Addiction: Meth
What’s memorable: The pain and abuse he suffered as a child, how delusional he is about how meth is affecting his life and what he thinks it does for him, the non-intervention, the icky and sad predilection toward incest-themed sexual encounters. “I’ve been anticipating the desires of adult males since I was 5 years old.” – Richard.

Official Synopsis: A 34-year-old gay man, Richard grew up knowing he was different and never feeling accepted. His stepfather disciplined him severely for his effeminate behavior. Today, Richard lives in subsidized housing and has done everything from dealing to prostituting himself to support his meth addiction. Richard’s family will have to make amends to him if they hope to get through to him.

Original Air Date: January 2012
Interventionist: Candy

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  1. Tina

    I am moved by this story. It felt as if I was watching my own son. My son is sooooooo much like Richard. Beautiful Man!!!!!!

    What has happened to him and how is he?

    I also relate on a personal level even though I am a mother of 4.

  2. Leslie

    Richard, if you or any of your family member or friends ever read this, please know what I’m about to express is so true. Last night, I happened to watch a re-run of Intervention, with you being the star of the episode and seeing it had been my second time in a matter of a couple of years.
    I see that picture of an elementary school aged boy, with brown hair and I believe that young boy still lives so bright and alive inside of you, even though we see you as 36 and a young man. That bright and shining little boy is full of hopes, dreams, happiness and wonderful wishes for the future.
    The anger, sadness, confusion, abandonment and abuse that you have endured through the worst times of your life are valid, understandable and AREN’T your fault.
    I pray you are still here with us and I pray that you never turn your back on yourself, that beautifully strong young man- because to do that would mean turning your back on all your dreams and your dreams are what YOU are here to do.
    No matter how long it takes, just know that you aren’t alone and making yourself proud can by far, bring a much richer smile to your face and to your heart.
    ~Never Alone~
    Hitch Your Wagon to the Stars,
    Leslie

  3. HDex

    How is Richard today? Is he still clean?

  4. ktat3890

    Where is Richard at today? (good vibes)

  5. Kat

    I watched this one recently, it was hard to watch. What unbelievable pain he has been through, and his loneliness was unbearable. Just wanted to give him a hug. Richard, wherever you are now, I hope you feel safe and loved.

  6. Tonya

    Richard I pray you read this.. I seen a rerun of your episode and would greatly like to know how you are now.
    You have such a strong beautiful soul and it shines thru you, even with the drugs clouding you on the show.
    I must say your strength in dealing with your family and the severe lack of understanding for rape victims, abuse and being different. Especially your “brother” it made me sick to my stomach. Anyways… I pray you have stayed strong and you sonehow read this… you can be a great influence to not only rape victims but people who are different… much love and prayers to you from north carolina!!

  7. Clare

    Just watched the episode of Richard and felt i had to look into how hes doing.

    He’s sober and doing amazingly by the looks of it! He is on social media sites ans not difficult to find if you’re interested in checking out his success for yourselves.

    1. Tamara

      Hey..what name do i look up on facebook. His story resonated with me and id like to follow him.

      1. Janice

        look for “Richard Andrew Kikot”. His twitter is @RdeTriomphe and instagram is @richardandrewkikot

  8. ON GUITAR

    Hello! I’m a good friend of Richard’s, and can tell you that he is living a great, sober life. He took to the AA model and “made amends” with me; it was like experiencing a whole new person. He was nervous, I was nervous – like we were meeting for the first time. I have always had all the love for him, no matter how crazy and demanding he could get, and I’ve never made music with anyone else. We did a small set together a little while back, my first time on stage in something ridiculous like 10 years (videos are online!). He has a partner and a few dogs, and is a much healthier human. And yes, his childhood experience really was quite terrible; the show (which I’ve only been able to watch once) just couldn’t adequately capture that, i don’t think.

  9. Tobie

    Awesome! He seemed like a really cool person underneath the addiction.

  10. Carly

    I grew up in that same small town and Richard was my childhood friend. He held things together well as a kid to us at school with him I wasn’t aware of most of what he talked about in the show which just goes to show you how a person can cover up so much. Richard is living a sober life and we talk online occasionally. So proud of him and happy that he’s been able to move past his struggle and become who he is now! 🙂 Love ya Richard

    1. Shannon Nicole

      that’s awesome!!!

  11. Martha Story Jones

    I’m so delighted to hear that beautiful Richard is sober, happy and healthy! His episode was very powerful !

  12. B Bell

    Hi, Richard I recently watched a segment of Intervention and watched your family helping with your drug intervention. I hope that this small email brings you comfort and love. My
    thoughts and prayers are that you doing much better. Take care and God bless you.

  13. Barbara

    This story is NOT an accurate portrayal of what goes on with Jehovah’s Witnesses. Mothers are allowed to speak up and leave the husband if their children are in danger. There are actually Witnesses who have a same-sex attraction. They simply choose not to give in to those urges so they can have God’s favor. Fathers who abuse their children are punished by the elder body in the congregation, or they should be. Even if they manage to hide, God will judge them in the end.

    1. Dizzy

      Note to the 15 people who replied to this and anyone else about to respond to this comment: Unless you can be respectful, don’t say it. Barbara is giving what sounds to me like the Jehovah’s Witness position on abuse and homosexuality. There’s absolutely no reason to be rude just because you don’t agree with the religion. Make an argument if you have one, or provide more information about the religion if you know more. But don’t be a dick just because you don’t believe the same thing. Thanks.

      1. Dahlia

        Translation: Let’s excuse homophobia any way we can

  14. Tobie

    I’m so glad to hear he’s doing well. I would be that guy’s friend all day, every day.

    1. Janelle

      Me too. He was one of the more likeable addicts, and he had one of the crappiest childhoods of any person shown. He’s lucky to be living in Toronto, which has plenty of support for people like Richard and is one of the best places on earth for an LGBTQ person to be in. I’m curious if he’s been able to mend fences with his self-righteous douche bag of a brother (or, perhaps whether the brother was able to mend fences with Richard).

  15. Ida Mae

    This episode was an absolute horror show. All of these things happening to this poor kid and no adult or parent in his life protecting him… Unconscionable. And then if that wasn’t bad enough, his lone protector being taken away from him. He deserved so much better.

    I’m glad to see the update that he’s clean and doing well.

    Richard, I hope you continue to find happiness and surround yourself with those who accept and love you for who you are. But above all, put your health and wellbeing first. Best wishes.

    1. Nell

      My best friend was a JW and she got brutally raped one night….. The JW elders’ response was to blame her for it and throw her out of the only family she ever knew. They interrogated her for hours…… after such a tramatic event. And, In the end, they said it was HER fault because of the shirts she wore and men’s sexually can’t be helped…. I SHIT YOU NOT!!!!!
      So…. Now I talk to the young girl JWs EVERY TIME they come to my door…. Just to relay this story….. And I NEVER DO IT VISCOUSLY – ONLY OUT OF A PLACE OF LOVE… That’s the only way you can reach people…

  16. Jamie

    Richard’s story was a real tear jerker for me. All the pain he’s endured, I could feel it too. I hope he was able to recover!

  17. Sandy

    Watching this episode now, I’ve seen all episodes at least 2x… where is Richard today?? Is he ok, did he ever go in rehab or other program?? Richard if you’re reading this, you have folks who care & adore you & wish you nothing but the best!! Let us know how you are😊 many prayers your way🙏😊

  18. Toreigh

    As a mother myself, I could never choose my religion or my marriage over the love and protection of my children. Never. I have 2 boys and if either of them seemed “different” or to be flat out, gay, I wouldn’t treat them any differently and my love for them would never change. Nevermind be embarrassed or worried about my own self image. When you become a parent life isn’t all about you anymore. Its up to you to love and protect your children. Unconditionally. Gay straight odd or normal. And to let your husband beat on your son, especially one that isnt even yours to be putting your hands on… Fuck that. My foot would have been so far up that dudes ass. I feel that maybe had his mother chosen to be there for him as a child that his sexual abuse would have been broughr up to her at a much younger age because he would have felt more comfortable talking to her.
    I apologize for my rant. This episode just truly pissed me off.

    I’m glad to hear richard is doing awesome and has battled his demons and addiction. I wish him well.

  19. KJ

    Thank God Candy was the interventionist for this one with that brother of his…

    1. Watcher

      I think the brother did a 180. His final FB message to Richard was loving and from the heart.

  20. Melissa Abrams

    Oh my God. Richard had a friend who was murdered by a serial killer. He made a victim impact statement in court.

    https://torontosun.com/news/crime/victims-friend-locks-eyes-with-serial-killer-bruce-mcarthur

  21. Emilia

    Richard you are an inspiration a strong force beyond words.. I have a twin brother who is my everything Ive always been his protector I can’t imagine losing him. I feel for you so deeply beyond words. So blessed to hear your story. Sending unconditional love. 💓

  22. Reticulated Spline

    His mother may have not known about the sexual abuse and good for her for coming to terms with that but the fact of the matter is she was a lousy parent who wasn’t there for her child. How could she have expected Richard to speak up to her about the sexual abuse when she never stood up to her husband about the physical abuse that he got just for being who he was? Nothing about being a JW means you stand by your husband while he abuses your children and everyone knows that’s an excuse that you tell yourself to make yourself feel better., even if that is what God commands of you in your Religion then honestly your Religion sucks and you should feel bad.

  23. Annette

    I really really just deeply like Richard and think of him often. What a tremendously smart, funny, compassionate, beautiful person – it’s easy to see that under the shield of addiction he’s built up. I’ve probably watched his episode a dozen times over the years, and I still cry when he talks about Kim. And I love Tamsen also! I really just want the best for Richard – I hope he can be the wonderfully intrinsically creative and and joyful person he is fully capable of being without drugs. I thank Richard for sharing his story.

  24. Nivey

    I just found Richard on IG and he looks amazing! He’s sober and looks happy! Looks like a completely different person from the episode! People leave him comments about his episode and he responds with gratitude, so I know it’s him!! I’m so happy to see him doing well!! Sending good vibes and prayers his way!!