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Episode 171: Dennis

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Dennis
Age: 41
Location: Belton, Missouri
Addiction: Meth
What’s memorable:  How he walks 20 miles a day just wandering the streets, how he took the rap for his dad and went to prison and everything went to shit while he was there, but he still managed to get out and make a great life for his family until the housing market collapsed and it all went to shit again. How great his family was doing after his intervention.

Official Synopsis: Once a big-hearted Christian family man, Dennis uses his meth addiction to run from the past that haunts him, while his family falls apart
Original Air Date: August 2012
Interventionist: Jeff

Categories: Addicted Parent, Jeff, Meth, Season 12, Traumatic Incident

Discussion

65 Responses to “Episode 171: Dennis”

  1. what happened to him?

    Posted by Adly | August 28, 2012, 11:40 am
    • Followup said he relapsed after a few days in treatment and still uses. That may change though, let’s keep our fingers crossed.

      Posted by Dizzy | August 28, 2012, 11:59 am
      • My father is clean and doing well he spends most his time taking care of my son while I serve in the marine corps.

        Posted by Dillon moore | April 15, 2017, 10:11 pm
      • Dillon Moore, I hope you see my comment here! I love your family and found your dad’s journey moving and inspiring. Addiction is horrible, and nobody sets out in life to become an addict. I just saw the episode for the second time and am praying for you all. Please ignore the haters. Because of this show you also have a lot of random supporters as well. Peace!

        Posted by Shannon | May 28, 2017, 11:10 am
  2. He has cort today that’s all I know

    Posted by anonamous | August 30, 2012, 12:19 pm
  3. This was the first Intervention show I ever watched and it really affected me. I couldn’t sleep. I can’t believe a grown man who has the capacity to be a good father and build a successful business would live his life this way. He’s lucky his wife and kids supported him for so long, after the way he treats them. He seems to have no shame about living such a loser life. I wish there could have been interviews with his meth-friends. I wonder where he eats and sleeps and bathes, especially now that his family won’t enable him. I hope he watched the show and got a good look at himself. It’s never too late to change.

    Posted by linda | August 30, 2012, 2:38 pm
    • And 2013 Butch(Dennis Moore) escaped several years in jail, and received only five months. The charges are unknown, but they weren’t not related to drugs. on a temporary super positive note, he came out of jail clean and stay clean for a while. He was doing very well. Unfortunately he continued to hang out with users. Which, despite several months of staying clean after jail, Butch started to relapse. Primarily due to his sociopathic, psychotic meth using girlfriend, Tonya.. Butch (Dennis) is a very decent human being. His track record does not prove that, but if you have a one-on-one, you would see it. as of this posting, it is unknown if he is still using. I would like to think not, considering I heard is a very good job now. A very high-paying, decent job. And he has had it for at least 2 months. His family, his friends, and even his friends that are using, I’ll tell him he should stay away from the drug, get away from them, as far as you can. He was in prosper and be much better off. His girlfriend, Tonya, despite her mental derangements has the ability to be a very decent human being is well. Unfortunately she struggles harder with the drug as well as your family history of mental instability. He stays with her several nights a week, as best he can. Butch (Dennis) is well known in the community. Both good, and bad. He has many long-standing, loyal, willing to help friends. Unfortunately, they have all distanced themselves and are waiting for him to stop using. If he could just break himself away from these bottom feeding people, he could be back on top in no time.

      Posted by Jamie Allen | February 8, 2014, 8:49 am
    • Yes, but until your in his shoes will you know what it is. I’m not an addict, but I do have family members who are fighting this disease because that’s exactly what it is. I just saw this episode last night, and I’m sure praying for him.

      Posted by Irma M. | May 27, 2015, 12:01 pm
  4. What’s his last name? I’m the same age as Dennis. Such a pity… I don’t live too far from Belton.

    Posted by Dawn | September 4, 2012, 5:15 pm
  5. Is his last name Weber? I live close to Belton, MO. I think it’s really sad… Meth is such a terrible drug…

    Posted by Dawn | September 7, 2012, 6:28 am
  6. This is pathetic and really upsets me. His wife cheats on him, his family helps him GET drugs, infact even gave him $ for this addiction COME ON!!!!!!!!!!!!
    If you truly LUV someone you do NOT CHEAT.
    Dennis you are a good person, don’t ever forget that .
    bellamadonna@hotmail.ca

    Posted by BB | September 17, 2012, 7:30 pm
    • I agree 100%. Dennis’ problem begins with his wife cheating on him. That injury can never be taken back. I could see in his eyes the hurt and disdain when he looked at his wife. She brought this upon the family. How nice to see at the end of the show that “she has started dating again”! Great, now there is zero chance of this family healing together. His wife’s affair is the reason he can’t quit, it is the only thing that makes him feel like a man again after she castrated and humiliated the poor bastard. Dennis, you will heal, but only when you finally understand that this was not the woman for you. She may be a good mother to your children but not to you. She betrayed you worse than your father did. Get over her first and then you can get better. You will never be whole with her, she even admits that “it will never be the same”. You are still plenty young enough to find a good woman that would never think about cheating on you. That is what you need, that is what we all need.

      Posted by WW | September 18, 2012, 10:42 pm
      • Um, he used before she cheated and before he found out about what she did.

        People need to take responsibility for their actions and not blame others.

        Posted by Clee | May 26, 2015, 6:04 pm
      • Ummmm… NO. Had he not been dealing in the first place, he wouldn’t have been in jail. He was using before she confessed. You cannot blame someone for the mistakes of someone else; everyone is accountable for their own actions.

        Posted by Sam K | September 8, 2016, 5:00 pm
      • Umm, WW, his problems began with his abusive father. Also, yes, he used BEFORE his wife cheated. Get it right thx.

        Posted by pam | February 19, 2017, 11:08 am
    • The greatest trauma Dennis suffered was from his father abusing him and then only showing him any kind of positive attention when he started making money dealing drugs for him. He then took the rap for this father and did prison time for him and his father returns the favor by trying to rape his wife. I feel terrible for Dennis but I feel a hell of a lot worse for his wife and children. They stood by him for 7 years while he was in jail. They have suffered terribly. Fifty percent of all spouses have affairs – I think you are being way to harsh on Dennis’ wife.

      Posted by Christina Cowell | May 29, 2015, 8:14 pm
  7. Man, what are u doing Dnnis?..I actually graduated High School in Grain Valley,Mo.()…So my friends and I were 18 years old when this area(Kansas city,Indepndence,blue spings) was the Crystal Meth Capital of the World.I dropped out of college in nov 95 came home and started doing meth withfrends.Within 9 months was livng were I could(meaning homeless) and was in rehab by August 1996. My point is why are you doing this crap so late in life?….Its a horrible drug and I was lucky enough to get off it but man 37 years old and doing this drug?…its not cool. This drug WILL make you homeless, thats what it should be called is the homeless drug. Theres no way around it, i couldnt even control my life when I was 18 with no responsibilities. So being a middle aged man with kids,mortgage and a wie, LOL thres no freaking way.No one can control their life while on Meth,its impossible!….Get off that shit, you have a family that cares and wants you…quit meth and just smoke weed. Weed doesnt make you homeless, you dont stay up for days and miss work and miss your responsiblities…..Meth is 110% NO GOOD….you cannot do meth and have a responsible life.

    Posted by STP | September 18, 2012, 11:46 pm
  8. anyone know where I can watch this full episode? I wanted to send it to someone and all I can find is clips…

    Posted by Barbie | September 27, 2012, 5:47 pm
  9. I truly felt for this guy. Betrayed in the most horrific way by both his father and then his wife, I can only imagine the sadness and loss of trust in humanity he must have felt. Sometimes that sort of emotional abuse/trauma can be worse than physical abuse/trauma. Heartbreaking.

    Posted by William Foote | November 13, 2012, 12:32 pm
  10. anyone know any information on this guy, like his last name? I would love to try and get in touch with him or his family, the episode really touched me, please help if you can. I do know his last name is not Weber.

    Posted by Tammy | December 26, 2012, 8:26 am
  11. http://mugshots.com/US-Counties/Missouri/Unsorted-MO/Dennis-Allen-Weber.20595030/details/

    There’s his contact info in jail as well.

    Anyone have any updates on him?

    Posted by Rachel | May 29, 2013, 7:00 pm
  12. This is not the same person. Allen Weber was not the one on the show. I won’t give the last name for the one that was on the show but it is not Weber.

    Posted by MC | November 8, 2013, 11:43 am
    • Does anyone know how the three kids are doing and if “Dennis” is in jail or what?

      Posted by Deb | February 2, 2014, 9:06 am
      • I’m doing Fine and so is my father so fuck you and anyone who doubted him. He currently is taking care of my son and entire family while I serve in the marine corps pass that message on to you and everyone of these bottom feeders who commented on my family’s hardship. This tv show fed the wrong story to the public. They recorded thousands of hours of interviews and told the most one sided story I’ve ever seen in my life and gave my family including my father nothing in return fuck you and fuck A&E.

        Posted by Dillon Moore | April 15, 2017, 10:20 pm
  13. Here’s the newest info I could find:

    http://www.justmugshots.com/missouri/st-joseph/15662368

    Posted by Rachel | August 11, 2014, 3:03 am
  14. I hope that, perhaps, Dennis might see this comment: Brother, you were dealt a rotten hand in this life. I hope you can somehow see clearly that your past (and current?) problems are not your fault. It would take a super-human to overcome the horrific abuse that was heaped upon you by your own father. But you can get past the past. Your story truly touched me and I wish for you to finally find some bit of inner peace and happiness. It can happen. You deserve it. Your past does not have to define your future. Begin again. You are a very good soul, I think that anyone who watched this episode would agree with that assessment. My best wishes always, Gregory Dennis Moore (that’s really my name, too).

    Posted by Gregory Moore | November 4, 2014, 6:41 pm
  15. All you people blaming the wife and the dad are ridiculous! Yes she cheated but that is not enough reason to abandon your children! Your father was a POS man up and be the complete opposite. His wife nor dad held the lighter under his meth for him to smoke. He chose that lifestyle on his own and blames the people in his life to make him feel better! Addiction is strong but love is stronger. I feel for those poor kids and as a mother I will never be able to comprehend how you leave your own blood behind to suffer. I pray the rest of the family is doing well and that they choose a better path for themselves than their father did!!

    Posted by Sally | November 4, 2014, 11:16 pm
    • Exactly, I had an addict for a brother. He blamed everyone but himself. He abandoned a child, but as usual it wasn’t his fault. I will NEVER enable anyone. If they refuse to help them self I’m not about to do it. A life like that does not end well. My brother passed away 2 years ago. He refused to get help and thought his problems were caused by everyone else. I tried to give him food and never money. He of course refused because all he wanted was money to buy more drugs or he would rob you blind. It’s not the wife’s fault. What she did was wrong. But nobody forced him to use drugs. I’ve been cheated on and didn’t become a meth user, had some messed up things happen to me, but I refused to let them get me down.

      Posted by Debi | November 5, 2014, 5:48 pm
    • I’m with you Sally! My mother was an abusive alcoholic and speed freak who abused me for decades. I have worked hard to do the opposite and to be a good mother. Its not easy but it is soooo worth it. Once you have children you don’t have the right to ruin their lives with your addiction. That being said I wish only good things for Dennis and I pray for his wife and children.

      Posted by Christina Cowell | May 29, 2015, 8:18 pm
  16. As I watched the show late last night, I was amazed at the love and support the twins gave each other and his daughter gave to Dennis. Clearly Dennis and his wife made mistakes in life but from what we saw from their children, they did three things right. I just hope and pray that those three children break the cycle of the drug addiction. This poor guy didn’t have a chance when he was a teenager with the type of father he had, he was bound to repeat it. Dennis (and Dennis’s family), if you are reading this, know that we are all praying for you to stay strong together! Don’t lose touch with each other-God gave you all to one another to love. Don’t throw that gift away no matter how hard it all can be. All our love.

    Posted by Michelle | November 5, 2014, 11:03 am
  17. I am rather astonished at the comments from a couple years ago. Blaming the wife for his addiction? His dad is the one that started him dealing. Then while Dennis was in jail, the father tried to rape his wife for crying out loud!
    Dennis is the one that decided to whore around to get meth, but blaming the wife for his choices… how does anyone get to that conclusion? Dennis chose to leave his family for his love of meth and sex. The pain is obviously very deep, and I truly hope he got the help he needs. Tragic 🙁

    Posted by Sandra | November 5, 2014, 5:37 pm
  18. I know this guy and he is older then I and I’d like to say I have had the same addiction as him for the as couple years, also Tonya is my family and fyi it is very immiture and ignorant for any one to say anything bad about either one of these ppl at all! I have grown close very close to both of them they took me in when I did have no one to turn too! I love and care for them very much almost as if they where like parents too ‘close’ in age but you get the gist of it. Anyway, Tonya may have her issues so do I so do you! Who doesn’t he who is with out sin cast the first stone! Don’t post that crap or anything bad about either one one here again they both have big hearts but with an addiction it grabs you and it takes over like it runs your soul okay I fight this battle every day I would like to say I look up to butch he is very intelligent person and he knows what he has to do just like with anyone else it’s Getting over that last final road barrier and I know more than any the decision to walk away from everything you know is hard not saying that that all he knows I can read his mind but when you have a heart and love and care for ppl in your lifetime you can’t just walk away n never look back can you he’ll no! You know that’s right! Encourage ment and praise will help %100 when your happy do you want to get high most the time you don’t for me anyway,just ask your self thisand I cwote” would you walk away from you mother or one of your children because that’s the only way you will ever get over this disease? I didn’t think so, so you tell me now is it more of an addiction or a disease? It’s supposed to ‘ve a fact that only 3% of methods users EVER quit doing it completely ever again how can we fix that? My ex husband was on methamphetamine’s for almost more than half his life as well as mine I tried to get him off not stop but Instead became dependent he took my life my kids EVERYTHING away from me you would think I would of stopped he took my four beautiful loving children. From me, but…. I couldn’t DISEASE! That’s what I say mind over matter come on get your head in the books docs! I NEED HELP!

    Posted by Ash | July 31, 2015, 5:38 pm
  19. Where is he now ?

    Posted by Leslie | April 17, 2016, 3:20 pm
  20. People are blaming his wife?! FOR REAL?! WOW. There are only 2 people to blame here. 90% of the blame goes to his POS so called father who started him on this path through beyond sh*tty “parenting” and then literally drawing him into that world. His father is horrible, and he did so much lifetime damage to Dennis.

    HOWEVER, Dennis has to share a part of the blame. He was looooooong into drugs and dealing before his wife was around. He was in prison because of his own actions. This is when his wife cheated. Does it excuse her? Not at all. But he was on this path well before she did ANYthing. He also knows how it feels to be treated like sh*t by his dad, yet he’s being a sh*tty dad to his own kids.

    You can tell Dennis is a good person at heart. And NO ONE deserves the childhood to which he was subjected. But he needs to take responsibility, and clean HIMSELF up. His father certainly isn’t going to do it. His kids shouldn’t even be in this position at ALL. HE has to do it. I truly hope he does, because he deserves a happy life. But he’s the only one who can do the work.

    But it’s always easier to blame others, isn’t it? Especially evil women, with their wiles and womanly voodoo *eyeroll*

    Posted by jen | April 17, 2016, 3:45 pm
    • I totally agree. I watched the episode just today again and it is shitty parenting his dad is a piece if shit. If his wife cheated there was a reason. But if they truly love one another it will last. Does anyone know how he is doing this day and age and how his kids are and ex wife? I’d like to know.

      Posted by Penny | April 17, 2016, 4:37 pm
    • Jen: “But it’s always easier to blame others, isn’t it? Especially evil women, with their wiles and womanly voodoo *eyeroll*” Actually there were a few women with wiles and voodoo in that episode, the ones who PAID HIM with drugs in exchange for sex. Kinda unusual. I suspect their own stories are sad too, we just don’t know them. Pray for all involved, especially Dennis’ kids.

      Posted by commenter | April 17, 2016, 8:40 pm
  21. You have to have the willingness and honesty in order to make a change. Jail institutions or death are promises you will receive from addiction. Pain is inevitable…Suffering is optional
    I hope the family has been able to move on with their lives. I too have a a mother in severe addiction and i have accepted the fact that she’s an addict and i continue to pray for her. Good luck and God bless ????

    Posted by P | April 17, 2016, 4:08 pm
  22. Shocked by the comments blaming the wife’s cheating for causing his problem. You know, when you are the wife of an addict you give up yourself to taking care of that person 100% of the time. You sleep with the car keys, the checkbook, the credit cards, and the cash in your pillow so the addict won’t steal and run away in the middle of the night. Everything you dreamed about before the addiction and everything you loved about yourself is out the window. Everything revolves around the addict. And then the addict leaves for treatment, or in her case, jail for 7 years. She got to re-connect with herself and be a part of the world again. How freeing it must have been for her to relax and breathe for 7 years. I’m not shocked she cheated on him; I’m shocked she went back to him. She has nothing to do with his relapse. She should date and marry a man who will cherish her and take her on weekend getaways, have movie nights and have shared hobbies, and feel not one ounce of guilt about his sorry self one more millisecond of her life.

    Posted by Laura | April 17, 2016, 4:20 pm
  23. I just watched the episode about Dennis. I hope he got clean. I am not an addict, I have never been a drug addict and I rarely drink. I felt so bad for his children; they love their father with all the hearts and he let his addiction take control over him. I realize his father abused him and he starting selling drugs to gain his respect. I found it amazing that he overcame that crappy childhood to become a loving father and husband. It was so sad to watch his daily life; to see his children in tears because of his addiction. I was saddened to see he had relapsed twice at the end of the episode. Does anyone know if he has gotten clean? I really hope Dennis has gotten clean and established a good relationship for his children.

    Posted by Becky | April 17, 2016, 5:30 pm
  24. Why doesn’t intervention have more follow-up episodes? I watch intervention on a regular basis and would like to see how some of these people are doing now, whether they’re doing good or bad. Come on Intervention more follow-up shows!

    Posted by LeAnn | April 19, 2016, 5:16 pm
  25. This episode was shocking… What a scumbag for a father… And who would let a kid stay with a drug dealer?!

    On the other side it’s ironic, because he abandoned his own kids just like his father. I think he had no healthy coping mechanisms at all. He treated his family like sh*t.
    To be honest I didn’t think he will get clean at all… I wonder where he is now.

    Posted by A. | August 7, 2016, 12:06 am
  26. I’ve known Dennis since I was twelve and he cheated on his wife before they even got married and continued to cheat over and over again until he went to prison. So enough with the cheating wife crap.

    Posted by michelle | August 10, 2016, 1:24 am
  27. He has a very sad history and yes, very sad his wife cheated. But to blame her for his inability to step up and be there for his kids, who he seems to love so much, that is bull shit and a very pathetic attempt at making excuses for his continued addiction. You may have a spouse who takes you down but your kids should always bring out the best in you. And to even suggest any blame on them, for giving him money and driving him around…they deserve NO blame for their co-depencence. Their letters tore my heart out. It amazes me Dennis couldn’t step up and stay strong after all of that. I am so sorry for them all. But Dennis can take all the excuses and sad, sad history to explain it all away OR decide to want a life worth living. Isn’t that what it boils down to? Making that choice, to have a life worth living, with or without his family? I wish them all the best, truly.

    Posted by Carolyn | October 3, 2016, 10:12 pm
  28. Yes i must admit, some of your comments made me feel angry, but most of them hit home. Look people this is Dennis Moore the person that chose to be filmed! Here is some incite from the man himself. Yes that drug is so terrible it will tear your life to peaces, and it doesnt stop! I didnt have the best childhood, boo hoo for me. NOT. I blame no one for my actions any longer. If they showed the whole interview, which was twelve hours. Like i was under attack by the feds. Again! Lol. My goal by the episode of mine Dennis Moore from belton. My hope was that even tho i was destroying my own life, there would be someone saved by the terrible choices i have made. There are so many people out in the world that are crying out for help! That never get the chance to receive any help. Or are even heard! And im very proud to tell all of you. There is hope for the addict that has reached the end of the road, rock bottom, ect. Tho we, myself and my children suffered thru my addiction. Thanks to My three children, there was some young adults, teenagers accross the globe have turned there lives around and got treatment. And im please to say that my Daughter has been in touch with a substances abuse counselor from Australia. On a regular basis and he uses my life in the drug and alcohol program there.
    Im very thankful for my life today. You see people, things in life happen for a reason! Good or Bad! Do I have alot of regrets, of coarse. I blame no one for my choices. But my self! What i have learned thru it all, there is country song by. Tracy Lawrence, “You find out who your friend are”! My advise to those that dont know the drug called METH,SPEED,ECT. Please read how it will take your life and wont let it go, it will kill all your fellings and trust. It never gets enough, and yes it will kill you. For along time that was my goal to have it kill me. Cause of the choices ive made. But GOD had a better plan that my vision couldnt see in my addiction. I have began my journey back people, its alot harder climbing out of tge whole i dug and jumped into. But let it be known, Its not Sheri’s fault, so get off of her, please. See she did what a mother should have done. She stayed strong thru it all. And our children had a great life. That’s what matters. We have both remarried, she is with a good guy,Chris. And im with a beautiful woman, my wife Tonya, we have been picking up the peaces of our broken lives. And let it be known, we have regained relationships with most of our family. But most of important our children and grand children. And i owe it all to my LORD and SAVIOR. Thats right JESUS CHRIST. And our wonderful children. Thank you Taylor, Dennis,Dillon,Jordan,Nick,Brianna,Ellie,Emma,And Easton. We owe our lives to them. You see folks it doesnt matter how much you have in life, cause if you dont have family you dont have anything. So stop tripping on what ive done or havent done. And look around you might just be able to help someone crying out for help. And you just might make a difference. Think about it?????? If i can help i will do my best to do so. “The first step one needs to take, is admitting they need help and letting someone know” Their someone may just be you??? So as your comments touched me, i hope mine has done the same to you. Let.it be known that my father DENNIS MOORE SR. has went on to be with the LORD, yes he made some wrong choices in life, JESUS Christ found his way into my dads heart and he was forgiven. Dad I Love you and i give you too. Never got to see him before he died. 22years. But I LOVE HIM. And yes folks get off of him too. Hope all of you hVe a good day. Cause im going to make.the best of what i have left. God Bless you all. Your hero or some may say Zero. But none the less BUTCH, DENNIS MOORE JR. GOOD DAY!

    Posted by Dennis Moore Jr | December 26, 2016, 8:47 am
    • Great to hear you are doing well Dennis. Just watched your episode and it really hit home. I hope you are at peace with everything,and that your children find it in their hearts to forgive you as you have forgiven your father. God bless

      Posted by adam inabinet | February 19, 2017, 11:25 am
    • I just watched arerun of your show. I’m so thankful you are doing better and in a healthier life thank you for the update.

      Posted by Debbie Archer | February 19, 2017, 2:06 pm
    • Thanks so much Dennis for letting us into your life and your road in and out of addiction. Though it’s always there. I hope your faith holds true BC and the rest of your life is filled with peace happiness and the love of your family. Love from The Cashwell Family

      Posted by Shannon Cashwell | February 20, 2017, 1:55 am
    • This is awesome! Your children and your story……..unforgettable. Those twins had me bawling. I’m glad to hear you are in a good place. I’ve got to know this…… who was that little cute baby in the opening scene at your ex wife’s apartment ? I thought I heard someone say it was your grand baby. WAS IT?! I’m a 41 young grandmother so I was curious about that. God bless you and your family.

      Posted by Tracy Walton | February 22, 2017, 1:26 am
    • Endless love Dennis

      Posted by Jonas Sweden | February 25, 2017, 4:35 pm
    • Good to hear!! Best of luck.

      Posted by Drew Tav | May 22, 2017, 9:23 am
    • To watch someone’s life struggles on TV, and for some reason actually wondered and worried where and how this person is doing today…..I guess since I thought my life has been a big tribulation, and vivid journey as well. I only want to wish the best for you, and definitely for your children. By the way, I’m very proud of you, but even more proud of your kids…Dillon remain strong, and thank you for serving our country. God is good.

      Posted by B. Hilton | May 22, 2017, 12:02 pm
    • Sounds to me like your 12th stepping Dennis! God bless you,your story is inspiring to lots of folks. My wife and I just saw the episode, we’re both in AA and as all families have addiction. Happy to see your clean!

      Posted by Bruce M | June 18, 2017, 7:23 pm
  29. Thank you for sharing all this with us, Dennis. <3

    Posted by Halley | January 5, 2017, 3:13 pm
  30. I saw the episode today on Dennis. It brought tears to my eyes and I just cried for him and his family when the episode was over. I felt overwhelmingly compelled to pray for you Dennis, and your family. You have beautiful children with the most amazing hearts and that is from you and your wife Sheri. I will continue to pray for you all and that your life will change many. God will use you and work through you to touch others. He makes beauty from ashes…. <3 Thank you for sharing your story…

    Posted by Cami | February 19, 2017, 6:25 pm
  31. this episode brought me to tears, and not just a couple small drops, like crying with snot running down my face kind of thing, his children pleading with him at the intervention did it for me, i couldnt take it. i grew up the child of an addict and i can absolutly relate to where those poor children were coming from. i read so many comments on here blaming the man’s wife or his dad, just passing the buck on who’s fault this is, over looking that the only person at fault is Dennis, he is the only one capable of making choices for his life. addiction is now defined as a sickness, a mental disease, please keep in mind that this is coming from a recovered opiate addict, that went through probably more in less then a year then what most go through in a life time,i grew up w a father as an addict, and at a young age 16 to be exact became an addict myself, after growing up telling myself that id never turn out like my dad, i found myself hooked on pain killers at age 16, got married at age 18 my husband never knew a thing about my addicition, i hid it from him for the next 5 years, we had our first daughter 1 year after our wedding day i was able to stay clean for my pregenancy, and immediatly relapsed after i gave birth, i got further and further out there, i began to sell my body for drugs, i stole whatever i could get my hands on, i lied about everything, and all of it hidden from my husband, i lived two different lives, the one he thought i was and the one i really was, after 5 years he found out, not only about my addicition but what i had been doing to maintain it, certain that he was going to leave me and take our daughter with him i was ready to give up on life and threatend suicide, and ending up in the hospital for 8 days while i detoxed, in those 8 days God preformed such a miracle in my life, my husband forgave me, something i never thought possible, but he did, he became a completely different man and husband after 5 years of living basically as roommates instead of husband and wife, having two seperate lives, he began spending all his spare time with me and his daughter something he never did, we began to pray and read the Bible togethher, he opened his heart up to me, he shared his feelings with, something our marriage had never been, but what i had always wanted it to be, he stood by my side he took me to rehab and the doctor, he was there for me, for the 1st time in our entire marriage he was there, then 2 months later, we went kyaking, just him and i, after we went to church for the first time in our whole relationship we went to church, then wanted to spend the da together we decided to go fishing in our new kyaks, then as we where ready to leave, heading back accross the watershed, we stopped to take a break, he accidently flipped his kyak over, and in his panic he drown, even though i did everything i could to save him, i couldnt, that was the day i relapsed, becoming more strung out then i had ever been before, i found out that i was pregenant with our second daughter, the same day as his funeral, and sadly that wasnt enough to make me stop, it took almost loosing my other daughter before i decided to quit, my inlaws got an emergancy temperary custody order in an attempt to take her from me for good, and the week they had her i reached my bottom, and i finally turned to God and laid it all down at His feet, and begged for help and my child to come back to me, i felt as though i was now mourning her death as well cause i knew if they were permitted to keep her id never see her again. since that week i have not touched a drug, and dont plan to, God gave my daughter back, He allowed my second daughter to be born healthy and whole inspite of my actions, we bought a home, and now are doing well. I finally decided my children matter to me far more then a drug, or anything else in this world, and that is the choice all addicts have to make, they have to find whatever it is that they care more about, what they want to fight for more then anything, and square off with their addiction, and fight for what means more on a daily basis. i dont know how much of a disease it is, i dont feel it truly is, its a choice u make within urself, u decide that either the drug is more important or is it what u care for more important and make a chice on a day to day basis to either pick up or not to and to say no daily, u have to choose to change, and the reason i dont feel its a true disease is because people who have diseases didnt choose to have it, thats all. but i pray that dennis can one day decide that his kids that love him are far more important than dope, but theres no one or anything to blame other then him for the choices he made, just like me, i chose to do drugs when my husband died even though i was pregenant, even though my 4 year old daughter needed me, i still decided to numb it all and use, just like i chose to put it down, and fight for what mattered to me, to beat addiction, and i can only hope he does the same, cause dope takes u 1 of 2 places and we all know where they are.

    Posted by amber | February 20, 2017, 7:50 am
    • i have been clean for five years and 3 months, and still counting, but as i stated above, it was a choice that only i could make, and am so thankful that God allowed me the chance to make that choice, and He saw me through, just as He continues to see me through each and every day

      Posted by amber | February 20, 2017, 7:57 am
  32. Dennis I just watched your episode today, I really felt for you, but I’m so glad to have found this thread and see that you’re doing so well. Truly amazing! Best of luck

    Posted by Isabelle C | February 22, 2017, 12:24 pm
  33. This message is for those who try to lay blame where there is no blame to be had. Everyone struggles and it’s not up to us to pass judgment. That’s left to a higher power. I rarely comment or give my opinion on other peoples lives but after seeing this rerun, I was desperate to know how things are progressing. Not to pass judgment or to lay blame, but to hope that things are turning out well for everyone and if not, just to say, don’t give up. Stay strong and keep fighting because you are all worth it. I was raised in a very strict home and was never exposed to alcohol or drugs but when I got older and had my first child, I watched his fathers downfall and then again with the father of my second son. When I hit my early 40s, I saw the tell tale signs with my significant other and not wanting to deal with it, I continued working on the road 100% hoping that he would find his own way but what I didn’t realize is that I was enabling him in my chosen absence. After another 10 years of working on the road and ignoring the obvious, I knew things had to change. I requested an at home assignment, stopped traveling, sold my house and moved closer to my son and his wife. I also gave my significant other the option to get sober and come with me. He accepted and went to rehab. Unfortunately, two months into his sobriety, I lost my best friend to a relaps. She had just completed in 30 days of sobriety when her husband called me with the news. At her funeral he handed me the letter that she wrote to me in detox and now, 10 months later, I still can’t open the letter. It hangs in a frame on the wall waiting until I am ready to except her passing and read her last words. To my significant other, is a reminder of what was just lost and to stay the course. This is not an easy path to navigate. At times there are more thorns than roses but, there are roses. Whether you are the addict or dealing with one, it’s a hard situation and a recovery road it goes on for infinity. My final words are to anybody that wants to pass down judgment, DON’T…. as we pass enough judgment on ourselves every day about what we should or shouldn’t do.

    This family is strong and they have shown they will continue to fight no matter how many curve balls come their way and for that, I am truly inspired.

    Thank you for sharing your story.

    Posted by Leslie Sheehan | August 31, 2017, 6:40 am

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