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Episode 223: Diana

Season 16, Episode 7

Diana
Age: 29
Location:  Beuna Park, California
Addiction:  Alcohol

What’s Memorable:  Ken knocked this one out of the park. He developed a strategy for getting her to say yes based on what he knew about the family dynamics, and it worked. He knew exactly what she needed to hear. Well done Ken.

Official Synopsis:  In three years, Diana’s alcoholism has gotten so bad that it has led her to being diagnosed with Wernicke-Korsakoff Syndrome, an alcohol-related brain disorder, which recently landed her in the hospital with temporary paralysis and a feeding tube… which she poured vodka into! Diana’s addiction has destroyed her career, her relationships, and now her health. Her parents know that if she doesn’t get help now, she won’t live to celebrate her 30th birthday. Ken Seeley is Diana’s Interventionist.

Date Aired:  Jan 2017
Interventionist:
Ken

Categories: Alcohol, Childhood Sexual Abuse, Ken, Season 16

Discussion

31 Responses to “Episode 223: Diana”

  1. Looking forward to seeing tonight’s episode. Sounds pretty serious. If anyone can help its Ken and the lovely Candy

    Posted by Dewey | January 17, 2017, 4:12 pm
  2. Wow. I am so happy for Diana that she got treatment for herself and that she is still winning the battle with her addiction. Growing up in suburban Orange County I can relate to the feelings of having to be perfect and the anxiety and depression that accompany keeping up such an exhausting facade that everything is wonderful, but I can’t imagine having parents with such a stranglehold. At first I thought it was drunken exaggeration, but her parents were pretty much controlling her to death. Some might fault Ken for his style with this intervention but you can’t argue with the results- it makes me sad that her parents can’t put having a healthy relationship with their daughter in recovery over their pride and having to be “right”. Did anyone else notice or feel sad that Diana didn’t have more people involved in her life and her intervention? It just seemed like her parents were so afraid of people knowing or seeing her that they kept her tucked away. Anyway, I am happy for Diana- and hope her the best in her future.

    Posted by Ally | January 17, 2017, 7:22 pm
  3. Ken was wonderful as always. Good episode. Hope she stays clean

    Posted by Flo | January 17, 2017, 9:55 pm
  4. I am deleting this comment because enough people had a problem with it still being up. For the record I let it be published because I knew the creep was gonna get shit for it and I thought that would be more effective than not posting it all, but I will listen to my commenters and remove. ‘Tis the will of the people. – Dizzy

    Posted by al meeks | January 17, 2017, 11:24 pm
  5. Wow this was a powerful one. I could relate to her being smothered and rebelling. Diana is so beautiful inside and out. Wishing her all the best. And I agree, this might be Ken’s best.

    Posted by Kat R. | January 18, 2017, 6:42 pm
  6. Those parents were beyond controlling. Just that scene of them coming into Diana’s home with food and having done her laundry was crazy. The woman is nearly 30. I found myself wishing that Diana had done something like gone to college in NY or done something to separate herself geographically from her parents; I think it could have helped her enormously.

    Posted by Ruth | January 18, 2017, 7:26 pm
  7. Honestly, this was one of Ken’s best interventions yet. He didn’t leave a single stone unturned…I saw him try to give Diana the empowerment she needed, and he handled the parents flawlessly. I was so happy to see him visit her at treatment during the follow-up. Ken’s awesome 🙂

    Posted by Tazz | January 19, 2017, 12:29 am
  8. Ken really is awesome. So odd to me these girls that have everything going for them and then alcohol destroys it all.

    Posted by Flo | January 19, 2017, 4:13 am
  9. This is yet another example of parents not believing their child when it comes to molestation. In so many cases, it’s so obvious that the need to either protect the accused or to shift blame from themselves is more powerful than the need for them to help the victim.

    I think it happens enough that Dizzy might consider adding it as an addiction trigger. I mean seriously, shouldn’t the benefit of the doubt go to your child and not the abuser? In Diana’s situation, it seems to me that there were some pretty clear indications that her parents knew something was wrong but thought they could fix it. I mean seriously, the controlling and showering of superficial love seems pretty telling.

    This was a very important intervention. I live in Tucson, and while I doubt I will ever run into Diana, I hope she finds peace here. It’s a pretty laid back city and she could make a life here.

    Posted by michilines | January 19, 2017, 8:47 pm
    • “Childhood sexual abuse” is listed as a trigger. There are plenty of addicts out there who were molested as children. Some of the parents believe them, some don’t, and some never know about the molestation until many years later. It’s the actual molestation that is the traumatic event, not how the parents react to it.

      Ken really nailed this one. He called out Diana’s parents on their self-serving behaviour and unwillingness to get help. Diana may be one addict who will have to cut ties with her parents in order to remain in recovery.

      If you run into her at El Guero Canelo say hi for me…

      Posted by Janelle | January 20, 2017, 9:50 am
      • I was specifically referring to the times when parents/families don’t believe them. While I can’t remember the specific names, there have been many instances of childhood sexual abuse where the family had no doubt it had happened and didn’t blame the victim. But is seems to me there a significant number of times when the family doesn’t believe them or even blames them for it (Gina comes to mind).

        I also remember one guy who witnessed his father cheating and the whole family called him a liar.

        That’s what I was thinking about. The psychological impact of being told that something that happened to you either didn’t or was your fault is serious.

        Posted by michilines | January 20, 2017, 4:21 pm
      • As a rape and molestation victim I will tell you you are wrong. The way your family handles it (or doesn’t handle it) can be almost if not as traumatic as the incident itself. My family blamed me (similar to Megan, Gina, and others) and it made things so much worse.

        Posted by Nicole | February 12, 2017, 3:57 pm
  10. am I the only one that feels something amiss happened between Diana and her stepbrother? That could be why her parents were so unwilling to believe that she was molested. I hope that treatment helps this family get to a place where they can love each other in a healthy way.

    Posted by Gloria | January 20, 2017, 10:11 pm
    • I also thought this might have been the case. If he needed to be removed from the home and essentially out of their lives completely there must have been more than sibling bullying happening.

      Posted by Renee Sadie | January 21, 2017, 8:58 am
    • I think there is something to that, because Diana’s mother said something along the lines of “how could he do it, he wasn’t even here.” That makes me think it was the step-brother, with them not realizing it happened before he left. Regardless of who it might of been, I also agree that the notbelieving can be just as traumatic as the assault itself. I am a sexual assault victims advocate and one of our biggest pushes is to “start by believing”- telling someone anything less than I believe you is unacceptable.

      Posted by Ally | January 21, 2017, 9:30 am
      • You are so right. I really pray that her parents come to the realization that she was courageous enough to take the help, now it is their turn.

        Posted by Lisa Miller | January 23, 2017, 10:06 am
    • I think this is it. Notice how the father mentioned her bed-wetting (right around the time he left the house, no less), then immediately changed the topic?

      This episode was like looking into a mirror. Horrific Godspeed to this lady!

      Posted by Artemisia | February 12, 2017, 1:22 pm
  11. amen Ally it is a huge deal when families deny it! It can be MORE harmful than the abuse sometimes especially when the family sticks by the abuser by either denying it or sweeping under the rug.

    Posted by Jennifer | January 21, 2017, 11:22 pm
  12. Diana,

    I am in tears watching your episode. I am so PROUD of you for getting the help that you needed. I pray that you continue to move in the right direction and fall back on the love and support that you have received from both Ken and the Cottonwood staff and counselors. I think this episode hit me so hard because it is ten years ago that we had to bury my aunt from alcoholism. She was such a beautiful person inside and out. I saw so much of her in you. She also had been to Cottonwood but unfortunately did not have the success you did. I will pray for you every day and truly hope that you stay on the road to success. I also pray that your parents will realize that they have a problem that needs to be addressed as well. You had such courage to take that step towards healing, I feel they owe it to you to do the same. You are such a BEAUTIFUL person and I believe you will have such a BRIGHT, HAPPY and FULFILLING future ahead of you. Stay strong. I look forward to seeing your update in a future episode!!!

    Posted by Lisa Miller | January 23, 2017, 10:04 am
  13. You know, I agree with everyone that Ken did a great job in terms of working with Diana and getting her to treatment but in terms of the parents, I did kind of miss Seth. To me, he’s always the one who knows how to speak truth to power when it comes to disbelieving parents who don’t take any responsibility.

    Posted by Ruth | January 28, 2017, 9:53 am
  14. I cant help but wonder if the issue of her brother being abandoned by her father and mother, and her parents showering her with everything they didn’t give him, would result in some very deep underlying conflicts, even is she doesn’t realize it. I didn’t see this addressed at all, how can any parent abandon a child they already have and in essence, just replace him with their daughter?? Can you imagine the pain and abandonment her brother must have felt? Would completely explain his behavior, and then as even more punishment, the parents get rid of him. Disgusting. I know I would have a sense of guilt if I was dealing with this knowledge, thank God I would never be such a bad parent.

    Posted by Em Gill | January 29, 2017, 1:05 pm
  15. Hey! Wondering about a few of the episodes that haven’t made it onto this site (Todd as an example!!

    Posted by Alex | January 29, 2017, 4:36 pm

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