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Episode 167: Nichole


Age: 25
Location: Calgary, Canada
Addiction: Alcohol (beer)
What’s memorable: The shaking, seizing, slurring, blackouts, and prostituting herself for beer are disturbing, as is the way she and her mother blame her sister for Nichole’s drinking. I mean what her sister and her boyfriend did was super shitty (Nichole’s boyfriend of 5 years left her for her sister and now they’re engaged) but to say that’s the whole reason she’s an alcoholic is just absurd. I know people need a scapegoat for stuff like this, I get it, but it’s all pretty unfair to pin it all on the sister.

Update: Here’s and interview with sober Nichole

Official Synopsis: Nichole, 25, has constant tremors due to a severe alcohol addiction as she struggles to overcome her sister’s betrayal.
Original Air Date: August 2012
Interventionist: Donna

Categories: Addicted Parent, Alcohol, Donna, Season 12, Traumatic Incident


27 Responses to “Episode 167: Nichole”

  1. I know Nichole…we went to church together as kids…her last name however is private

    Posted by tmvanhuizen | October 9, 2012, 9:00 pm
  2. Hi, I just watched this episode. I don’t know if the guests on this show ever read these comments. But I found this episode hard to watch seeing Nicole shaking so badly. I don’t always cry to shows, but this one made me cry a lot and I hoped in the end of it that Nicole has found recovery in the programe she participated in and keeps up with the recovery even after.

    If Nicole sees this message, I want you to know that I felt so happy to see you agree to the help. It is the best thing in your life you will ever have done. Keep up with it and be strong. You are a beautiful woman and should be very very VERY proud of yourself for accomplishing as much as you have and I know much more in the future you can accomplish also. Thank you for inspiring me to keep up with my own recoveries in life. Big BIG Hugs to you. 🙂

    Posted by Ivy May | November 26, 2012, 6:18 pm
  3. I found an article with an update on Nichole 🙂 not buying the drama filled comment last left on the article…from someone claiming to know what else happened.


    Posted by Vikingessa | December 10, 2012, 1:23 pm
  4. What a *for lack of a more appropriate word* crappy sister. That is not an excuse, I agree, but jeez man! Have some loyalty and a little class! I felt how hurt she was, this episode made me bawl 🙁 I really felt for Nichole. I was so proud of her for being strong and overcoming this devastation in her life. I hope she’s still doing well and being the better person. The best revenge is being happy.

    Posted by Jessa | September 23, 2014, 8:30 pm
    • So agreed!!! I was just watching a rerun of this episode and was SUPER sHitt that the interventionist never (at least in the episode) ever even addressed that what her sister did to her (and the dbag boyfriwnd) was HORRIBLE! And her mom had a right to be pissed and Nichole DEFINATELY did!!! I understand that it is no excuse for her alcoholism but sometimes things are a catalyst and if that was my sister doing that to me I would probably cut that deceiving, negative person out of my life COMPLETELY! ESPECIALLY while trying to stay clean! She has got to be a TOTAL trigger for her to drink! Also no one mentions that her sister was drinking right along with her in all the early pics until she DID HER SISTERS BOYFRIEND OF 5 YEARS and then yeah….probably pushed Nichole off the edge a bit!

      Posted by Kari | February 14, 2015, 2:01 am
      • Ugh…sorry for the spelling. Was commenting from my phone and then couldn’t figure out how to edit it and correct the mistakes!!!

        Posted by Kari | February 14, 2015, 2:38 am
      • She had already been an alcoholic for 4 years before the boyfriend and sister got together. They’re not the reason she drank and even said so herself at the end of the episode. Her mom was a huge part of the problem as well.

        Posted by Rachel | March 23, 2015, 9:44 pm
  5. Most relatable intervention I’ve ever seen. The shakes and the state of oblivion brought me back. Curious to know to know how she is. Sponsorship, and working the 12 steps as outlined in the book has kept me from that state for a while and hope for the same. To drink is to die.

    Posted by Jeremy | February 14, 2015, 12:08 pm
  6. While it was crappy what happened with her ex-boyfriend and sister, and the sister clearly was jealous of Nichole (maybe why she didn’t feel much guilt about the situation), they are not completely at fault for her alcoholism. She was an alcoholic before any of that happened. It bugged me how the mother was pitting them against each other. I would be upset if my daughter did that to her sister, but I wouldn’t take it that far. The mother was a huge part of the problem, and I don’t think she even realized how badly she was enabling Nichole. It was so hard to watch her shaking, very sad. Glad to hear she went back to treatment after her relapse, hope she’s still doing well!

    Posted by Clare | April 24, 2015, 1:23 pm
    • When did it say that Nichole was an alcoholic before that happened? I don’t remember that, I remember the ep saying she was a social drinker before that but didn’t have a drinking problem. Just curious.

      Anyway I would also totally spiral out of control if that happened to me, or at least begin to… you can’t help what triggers you or the initial reaction, it’s what you do after that. But I have no idea where I would head…

      Posted by Halley | May 9, 2015, 2:06 pm
      • Agreed! I was so aggravated that the interventionist never mentioned the sister /boyfriend BS, I was reall thinking the sister should’ve been put in her place, the sister – Sam- had no right to even be at the intervention, wtf! Obviously Sam doesn’t care about her sister…

        Posted by Ashley | December 21, 2015, 7:38 am
    • but still I think about how gross it is to date your sisters ex! I mean seeing him touch and kiss your sister for a couple of year and then to go out with him and sleep with the same guy who slept with your sister, it freaks me out to watch this

      Posted by sage | March 7, 2016, 5:33 pm
  7. Someone mentioned they think her sister’s betrayal is just an excuse, you have no idea. I have been in a similar situation but it was my best friend (ex now) and it plagues your mind for years. You can hardly trust anyone and feel ugly and useless.

    Posted by T | August 6, 2015, 12:55 am
    • So true. it was a best friend of mine as well, not a sister and i turned to alcohol to cope with the feeling of utter betrayal and worthlessness i felt. the alcoholism went on for FIVE YEARS before i moved away and started a new life basically but i still struggle with trust issues. i was 20 when it happened so i think it hits younger people harder when things like that happen with a long term relationship.

      Posted by E | August 11, 2015, 10:58 pm
    • Same here, my ex best friend not only did the same to me but also put everyone against me by lying and inventing rumors about me to cover her ass. I was pretty messed up before that but it just made everything worse. Just one more wound to the back.

      Posted by sara | October 31, 2015, 7:32 pm
    • I completely agree. I couldn’t finish watching this episode; I had to skip around.

      My sister and I are a few years apart. Even as a dumb teenager, my response to one of her ex-boyfriends hitting on me was “oh, gross.” Not that he was a particularly bad guy, but you just don’t do that. You just do not start dating your close sister’s boyfriend. Talk about lacking class.

      Nichole, what happened is not, and never will be rewritten as your fault. The best thing you can do is live well – get sober, get educated, and leave those losers in the dust. If you can find it in you to reconcile with the girl with the same parents as you (she’s no sister), you’re a better person than I would be. Go live!

      Posted by RachelEvans | November 8, 2015, 11:05 pm
  8. As far as the mom, I don’t agree that you have disowned sam because of Matt. You’re a mother. You shouldn’t judge. its called unconditional love. You don’t have to accept or approve of it, but you should still ALWAYS be there for your daughter. She is not the reason for where Nicole is. it may not have helped, but she was going to end up an alcoholic regardless. She is also able to make her own decisions and made her own choices to pick up the beer. You’re looking for someone to blame, and instead of doing what you should be doing, and just being there to help, you’re blaming Sam. You’re pushing her away and soon, she won’t be in your life anymore. Imagine your mom “hating” you or choosing sides like you’re doing. What if something happens to Sam and you never get the chance to make it right. She will have died thinking her mother hates her because she fell in love. Everyone knows you can’t help who you fall in love with. Yes, Sam should have NEVER started with matt in the first place, but she did and she fell in love. Its been years now, so let it go. Matt and Sam should have never gotten in a relationship. I think it was a HORRIBLE choice for both of them, especially Sam to do that to her own sister. Imagine if now, after all these years, Matt broke up with you and went back to Nicole. How would you feel? I can totally understand Nicole hurting bad. It hurts bad enough when a guy breaks up with you. You feel like you aren’t good enough. But to have it be over your own sister, wow. If that happened to me, I’d probably never talk to my sister again. But its no excuse for the alcohol, and Mom, you should NOT dismiss Sam over this. Make it right before its too late. Its been years. Let it go and start loving your daughter the way you should, unconditionally.

    Posted by Leigha Summer | August 25, 2015, 8:38 pm
  9. Limited profile, but she looks great! Just got done re watching her episode. Good for Nichole! Looks like she dropped the h in her name?

    Posted by Dee | August 26, 2015, 8:28 am
  10. What her sister did was horrible!! I think it absolutely could be a catalyst into addiction. Of course there were probably other issues that she pushed down for years but I think such a traumatizing event could absolutely push her over the edge into a full blown addiction. That is such a betrayal.

    Posted by Lexi | September 25, 2015, 5:41 pm
  11. Nichole if your out there and reading this contact me.

    Posted by Eric | November 6, 2015, 8:33 am
  12. Are Sam and Matt still together in 2015?

    Posted by ann | December 20, 2015, 7:15 pm
  13. I just finished watching this episode and I’m hoping by the grace of God that Nichcole is still sober!!! You are a beautiful person!!!! Some how some way I wish/hope that someone could let me know!!!!!!!!!

    Posted by Jill | February 9, 2016, 10:15 pm

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